Love help: Well,I’ve tried everything.I give up! - Help.com

How was he during counseling? If he’s not making any effort, or attempt - ask him why.

From that answer you will know what to do with your life. You will either continue to live like this, or be ready to move on.

It doesn’t sound like he respects you at all. If he did he would acknowledge how upset you are and try to do something special for you.

well girl you just have to wake him up .why go to football games go to certain shows go to things you both would like .tell him “no” we are going there or here .He will do it he needs a hobby .Go and buy him some Japanese koi fish and a book what tells him how much a price koi is worth.Show him on the Net Japanese koi Fish .See how much they are.You just have to make it interesting.Forget Counseling ,most counselors have been married a few times they know F(*&^ all and then they try to give advise.He works hard as a mechanic.You have to be more diplomatic,but not showing it..

Speak from your heart. Pour out your feelings to him and let him know that you can’t handle much more. Men seem to have more trouble than women when it comes to showing they care, so be the one to start the conversation. Be frank and sincere. Things will work out if you’re determined and if you truly love him for who he is.

It sounds like he’s a bit lost too.
Unfortunately, not all men are well practised at expressing their feelings.

What did the counselor say about his lack of hygiene? This is a symptom of depression . . . letting one’s self “go.”

Perhaps he doesn’t feel that he “deserves” love, and intimacy, and a happy life. Perhaps he’s trying to build a wall of “smell” around him.

But, yes, you need to have that “heart to heart” talk. Please do NOT threaten divorce. Don’t use that word. Just tell him that you love him and you want to show it, but he needs to take care of himself for both of your sakes, and also tell him that even married people need to “date.”

Agree with Dougie . . . something is definitely depressing him. Try to tease it out of him in a loving, non-threatening way.

Being in a trade send him off to the shower wiht the promise of a good body massage and tell him how much you love and appreciate him. But him a new outfit and take him to the dinner table and give him a good feed. Tell him how good he looks. Ask for nothing. Make this a weekly ritual for a month and see if it makes a difference. You can’t sort the problem out by starting with your feelings if someone is depressed. If you honestly love someone you need to go to any length to make things work aside of course from anything that might undermine your character.

Well its 4 months since the post, what happened? Did you stay with him?