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Hey everybody out there.

Ive never really posted anything before but i was just running around on the internet and i saw this and thought that it would be good for me to get how im feeling off my shoulders, so here goes. I’m 16 years old and my Father passed away about 11 months ago in a plane crash. me and my family loved my father with all of our hearts and we miss him so much. my dad was such a great person, he helped everyone he ever came across and whenever he saw someone hurting or needing something he would never hesitate to do all he could for them, he was the greatest person i’ve ever known, my dad was a doctor and flew to other hospitals to work for a week and then would come home, when he flew to a hospital 12 months ago his plane went into stall and he crashed putting him into a coma. my dad was in a vegetative state in the ICU for 4 weeks and then we took him off life support because thats what he would have wanted…….that month has haunted me and hurt me this year and i feel it will keep hurting me and i dont know if i can take it anymore. throughout that whole month we heard other families in the ICU screaming and bawling when one of there loved ones passed away and we knew we’d be up eventually everynight i close my eyes i hear those families screams and it hurts me so immensely. anybody I need advice i need something to make me feel better about all of this………all of this is just the beginning, once he died our family started falling apart and its still falling apart theres arguing 24/7. I wake up and go to sleep everyday to screaming and crying…..I feel like life is just dragging by with no meaning and no point. im so active but when im out with people i hide all of my true emotions i just put on a happy face until i get home and to myself……..and im sick of talking about this already…..I just dont know what to do…..

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❤ℓινιηgJst4u offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 146 Add Friend #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (12 minutes after post)

I’m sorry for wht happened to you.
you are doing the right thing. you should be strong not to show your emot outside.
But you can show it to someone close to you.
sometimes, it is ok to let it go.

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Richard Cor de Lyon offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 20 Add Friend #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (21 minutes after post)

First I want to share with you my sympathy. I’m sorry for your loss, and sorry for the devastation it has had on your family. I want to share with you the loss, or grief process. If you know it already please excuse me. When we loose someone there is a basic 5 stage process that we all go through. These stages are Denial, Bargaining, Depression, Anger and Acceptance. We experience these emotions over time and not necessarily in this order. There are time we might experience on or more of the several time before we get to acceptance. I understand that talking about it get’s tiring… or everyone giving you their sympathy… I mean how many times do you have to go back and think about all… right? Well, you have to give it time that’s the only solution. If you don’t feel like talking about … fine, say so. But there are times when you should talk about it.

Next I wonder what your spiritual belief is. Not that it’s critical, but millions of people find solace during this time, because of their faith.

There’s not much more I can say… but to let you know if you feel like talking, I will listen.

Bright blessings ~ Richard

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gypsy-corner offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 34 Add Friend #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (30 minutes after post)

Hun I am so sorry to hear that. Your dad sounds like he was a wonderful man. He’s lucky to have such a loving family. It sounds tho like your family is still grieving and that will take a while there isn’t a quick fix for that, I’m sorry. Just keep talking about it. Getting those emotions out will make things a little easier. IF you can’t talk to your family about it just yet talk to someone, anyone, friend, school councilor, neighbor, anyone just don’t let it all build up. It’s so easy to pretend your ok but it’s not good for you!

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Jajaw offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 0 Add Friend #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (22 hours, 34 minutes after post)

Nothing ive been trying really works though……I tried a counseler and that hasnt helped me at all….and theres no way i can talk to my family there isnt anytime, they just find something to yell at me about and blow me off i dont know how to even feel better everyday is just miserable.

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gypsy-corner offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 34 Add Friend #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (22 hours, 43 minutes after post)

Aw hun, I’m sorry. Your family probably doens’t know what to do now too. THey don’t mean to make you feel that way. There is just so many emotions right now it’s over whelming. What about friends or other family memebers out side the ones you live with. I’m always hear to listen if you need me. I lost 3 members of my family with in one year I’m no stranger to grief. I don’t know what it’s like for you but I can relate as to some of the feelings your desribing.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (22 hours, 56 minutes after post)

i just want to find someway out. go somewhere where i can be alone for awhile so i can think about my life and what i need to do

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (23 hours, 3 minutes after post)

Why don’t you try going for a walk spend some time in a quiet place. Library, park, bathroom ect. Things will get easier with time dear. What are you thinking you need to do?

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gypsy-corner offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 34 Add Friend #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (23 hours, 4 minutes after post)

I’m sorry I’m probably not much help to you am I? sorry.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (23 hours, 16 minutes after post)

How are you doing today tho?

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