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I got dumped on sat :-( strange thing is that he hasnt stopped txting me since…

.is telling me tht he wants to be with me and can see us being together in the future and getting married etc and this has left me confused! what my friends dont understand is that i believe what he says! some ppl may think i’m being naieve or gullable but the sincerity in his eyes when he said these things is what makes me think he’s telling the truth…. is he just being a tease? should i let go and move on or should i let him have his time and wait for him????? my heart literally breaks at the thought of not being with him, i dont know if am strong enough to cope without him in my life, he’s not just my boyfriend, he’s my best friend!

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Pancakes offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (6 minutes after post)

aww x

i dunno

try again but if he hurts u again ignore him

no matter what

u should always give people another chance
but only 1
give them more than 1 and it gives them the impression that thay can say thoose things again to make it better

i went througha togh time with my 4 year relationship break but i moved on to better people

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Morally Ambiguous JD offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 101 #
An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (7 minutes after post)

you will cope, he left you for a reason, probably a big reason that he feels realy guilty about. he might just be saying this to make you feel better or to keep you as an option… my advice, move on and find someone else you were strong enough before you met him and each relationship should only make you stronger, not weaker.

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seas light offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (11 minutes after post)

Well, This is something you will have to follow your instincts on I’m afraid. You know him best, or do you? I think everyone is entitled to have a 2nd. chance. But when it comes to the matters of the heart, he should have known better. This isn’t a game, and if you do give him this chance, please make it clear, in no uncertain terms, that this will be his last chance. Best of luck to you, and I hope he appreciates your forgivness, and loves you the way your meant to be loved. Unconditionaly.. :)

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Richard Cor de Lyon offline Verified User (2 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 20 #
An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (22 minutes after post)

he dumped you but a few days later is asking you to come back… telling you he loves you and wants to marry you. He sounds like a codependent to me. He was able to stand in his own power for a moment (long enough to dump you) but can no longer cope without having you. I don’t know how many times I’ve done that myself. Check out this description http://www.codependents.org/foundatio… and if any of it sounds like him proceed carefully. I’m a recovering Codependent and I’ve learned that as a codependent person, even though I meant well, I could be very manipulative in regard to my relationships. If you accept him back, and yes he would be worth it… but if he is codependent try to get him to see it, and get help - otherwise you will be destined for a certain amount of unhappiness.
Bright blessings ~ Richard

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Victoria Sponge offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 12 #
Fritwell, K2, GB | 12 months ago (47 minutes after post)

I agree with Seas light go with your instinct but be very careful, I had an ex boyfriend who used to dumo me everytime we had an argument and I kept letting him by taking him back, I ended up heartbroken at least once a month and with zero confidence, don’t let him do it to you repeatedly

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