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I cheated on my boyfriend of like 2 years and 3 months…

I had this guy friend who was honest to god my friend prior to this, however we went out one night, I was drunk and I made out with him. Nothing else just made out, however my boyfriend is super hurt. When he found out he called me some names I guess I deserved and hung up, he deleted me from facebook, his phone is turned off, and he’s not replying to any of my emails. He sent a nasty message to the guy whom I made out with, and he sent him a message back explaining to him that I feel awful and that he’s sorry and just trying to make him feel better in general and encouraging him to talk to me again.. His last gf cheated on him and went all the way, he never talked to her again. Jus cut her off cold turkey, should I expect the same? We were dating alot longer and had a way stronger bond is that enough to make him come back??? I guess what I’m really asking here is how can I get him to forgive me or at least start talking to me again so I can explain myself.. and try and make things better? Please help.. Oh p.s we are in a long distance relationship so I can’t just go over to his house and apologize in person, and if I did someone manage to find a way I’m afraid I would get there and he wouldn’ let me in, then I’m like 2 hours away and have nowhere to stay or no way of getting home.. Any advice would be geatly appreciated, and I’d also appreciate it if people didn’t judge..I know I messed up but people make mistakes and he did much of the same thing last year and I forgave him.

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mihrei offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (4 minutes after post)

Well partly i would say u have lost him and deserve to
But there is another side to me that say well u made a mistake and should do everything in ur power to prove that and that would include arriving at his door even if it is 2hrs away. It might be the chance worth taking and would prove ti him u r serious

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Morally Ambiguous JD offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 144 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (7 minutes after post)

if you want to be with him still then chase him, if he doesn’t want you back then you will just have to respect his decision and try and move on. i know exactly how hurt he is. hey may never trust you again or you will have to work hard for it back if he gives you a second chance.

if you don’t get that chance, then move n and learn from his experience.

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lucif offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (18 minutes after post)

I am sorry. I won’t pick your side. You just going to have to get his trust back. It is bullshit you call it one mistake. And you know it.

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linuxya offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (28 minutes after post)

Hm… you got drunk and made out with another guy. Getting drunk doesn’t mean you suddenly start thinking and feeling differently than usual. It simply lowers your inhibitions.

So if you really had this strong bond you claim with your boyfriend, you wouldn’t have done this. So, obviously the long distance aspect of your relationship is causing some problems for you. You want attention and affection and touching and so you took it from someone else who was available. Be honest with yourself.

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skyy offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 50 minutes after post)

Linuxya is right when he said be honest with yourself but if you had the heart to forgive him in the past he should be willing to do the same. It might take some time but he should come around if not then owell. Move on and try to learn from your lesson

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skyy offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 50 minutes after post)

*your mistake

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (7 months, 3 weeks after post)

You’re a ****. Hope you and Brian are miserable together

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