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well i guesse the roots of this dilemma stretch back to the beggining of grade 8. at the beggining of grade 7 i met 2 guys in my new class: timmy and steve, us three were best of friends all throughout grade 7. we had soo much fun together, we thought we wud be friends forever. Very strangley i didnt hang out with timmy at all during the summer and i did a bit with steve but it wasnt the same. dunring that year i punched timmy a lot, like dead arm i mean a lot. i feel really bad for it now and i think he kinda resents me for in now.so at the beggining of grade 8 they thought it would be funny if they ran away from me. i interpreted this as they not wanting to be friends with me so i stoped hangin out with them and i lost my other friends from elementary school around this time as well, reasons i wont get into. so began my reclusive ways. during that year i started to hang out with a new group of ppl but i was never truly accepted by them i hung out with them for like 2 or 3 years but was never really included in their activities outside of school. during this time i made a new friend justin, he hung out with a different group but we still became best friends. but he was more my best friend than i was his cause he moved here during grade 8 and had 2 best friends ever kinda delly from were he moved from. slowly i stopped hangin out with those guys and startd to hang out with just some random new ppl (like 2 ppl) this group still exists and is kinda a fall back group for us.now we dont hang out that much except for 1 of em. i got into weed with these 2 guys and eventally justin started doin too. in the beggining of grade 11 (the grade i am in now) me and justin got causght by his parent smokin weed, he was grounded for a month and stopped somkin it, i w asnt grounded and continued. one time on msn i said i wont respect u if u dont drink or do any drugs or nething like that to him (i know that was horrible and intend on apoligizing soon) so now me and justin hang out with this same group but i am not really accepted in this group aswell, but justin is. 2 weeks ago we were supposed to see the new james bond, i found out about this and everything through justin, not through our group. but soon after arranging this justin calls me and says that this plan has been cancellded bcuz nearly every1 that was goin was gettin a ride from one guy but then that guy cudnt go so no1 was goin. today i found out that was a lie they did end up goin but just didnt want me to come, i dont know if every1 didnt want me to come or just him, the other knew about it tho, should i just confront him about this and ask y i was not included and y he hasnt really wanted to hang with me recently? (if i do i will say sorry at the some time). and about the long story, leavin timmy and steve was the beggining of my depression and i havent been happy since. i want to be accepted into this group and keep my friendship with justin cause i can tell its on that slippery slope. and suggestion, tips and words of encouragement would be appreciated. thanks for reading

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Gypsy Pirate offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (2 hours, 43 minutes after post)

It sounds like you have a lot of anger pent up in there. I could be wrong but the only reason I say this is because I used to grab my friends by the neck. I thought that I meant it in a joking way but now I realize that I was just a very angry kid/teenager/adult. I’m still angry a lot. But when I did this it made my friends really uncomfortable and they didn’t want to hang out with me. There was also a stage when I started cutting and my friends parents found out and wouldn’t let them hang out with me because they thought it was contagious like the freaking flu. I just didn’t have a perfect freaking childhood and turned out more jacked up than any of them. I still resent the parents that saw how emotionally jacked I was and didn’t make any effort to help. But enough about me.

I would recommend beginning by apologizing about what you had said about the drugs thing. That’s pretty shallow. pot only numbs the emotions and doesn’t allow you to mature. I would say that you should also stop smoking pot (but I don’t want to sound like your mom), not because of those stupid commercials but because it holds you back and is a depressant. maybe ask him what’s going on with that situation and your friendship and maybe, just maybe tell him how you feel about the whole thing. It’s a ****** situation. but I’m sure he doesn’t want to lose you as a friend as much as you don’t want to lose him.

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Gypsy Pirate offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (9 hours, 51 minutes after post)

I don’t know about hints to become better friends with anyone. I am still the outcast in many groups. I’m anti-social and would rather hide in my room than socialize. I realized I have to be drunk to even deal with being at a bar with all the stupid people. I’m a very good friend. I’m very loyal and a good confidante. My issue is that I know that almost all of my friends are not as loyal and frankly couldn’t care less if I disappeared. My downfall is that whatever boyfriend I have at the time, if I have one, I make him my best friend. My most trusted person. when things don’t work out with that person it gives them tons of firing power.

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