Feel help: Why can’t the pain stop! - Help.com

You can.

You can help yourself, you always can. It is good when you WANT help and see you need it, even if its unfortunate that the people aroudn you seem not to take it serious.

How old are you? Are you already adult, then you can go into a therapy, get a psychiatrist. If not, or if you dont have the money, there are hotlines where you can talk with people. Maybe you should tell your friends, family, in a serious talk how you feel. Depression is a sickness and if you would have cancer they wouldnt tell you to ’snap out of it’ either.

I feel with you, but I have to disagree. You are surely not a desease and it is a lie to yourself if you say you cant do anything.
You are depressed, which makes you unable to see what an amazing person you are.

Talk with us, maybe you’ll feel better then.

And if you want links to any websites, hotlines or help websites, I can give them to you.

not really I guess a little bit of everything all rolled into one. I don’t know how to change things. Heck i don’t even know how to change myself. I want to but it seems for every step forward I take 10 back. I’m sorry you feel the same way it isn’t any fun to feel like this

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You can. You can help yourself, you always can. It is good when you WANT help and see you need it, even if its unfortunate that the people aroudn you seem not to take it serious. How old are you? Are you already adult, then you can go into a therapy, get a psychiatrist. If not, or if you dont have the money, there are hotlines where you can talk with people. Maybe you should tell your friends, family, in a serious talk how you feel. Depression is a sickness and if you would have cancer they wouldnt tell you to ’snap out of it’ either. I feel with you, but I have to disagree. You are surely not a desease and it is a lie to yourself if you say you cant do anything. You are depressed, which makes you unable to see what an amazing person you are. Talk with us, maybe you’ll feel better then. And if you want links to any websites, hotlines or help websites, I can give them to you.

I’ve talked to my friends about it but I feel like I’m bothering them with all these negative thoughts. I don’t want them!!! I’ve seen a therapist and even have been put on antidepressants yet still I feel like the scum of the earth. Sometimes I’m ok and can almost feel like a regular person then out of no where I don’t. I feel like crap. Nothing seems to help me anymore. Maybe I”m jsut unable to be helped!

You are surely not unable to be helped, really. Everyone can be helped.

And this with your friends, I know the problem. But I give you a advice - dont stop talking with them about your depressions, but dont talk too often about it. Dont forget to joke and laugh with them!
Because you are right, it IS exhausting and not nice for them if you talk about your sad feelings BUT if you keep it at bay, I am 100% sure that they WANT to listen to you to make you feel better. But they want to have good time with YOU also. Dont forget that, they like you for who you are, so it is okay if you talk with them abuot your negative thoughts. Just not all the time. Then it will be absolutely okay for them I am sure.

Hm, maybe the therapist couldnt help you, maybe it was the wrong one. Happens too!

Everyone feels down here and then, some people feel worse and more often down, but it is ‘normal’ to feel depressed here and then. You need to appreciate the good times too, dont forget that.

And… what exactly makes you so depressed? Tell me. Maybe I can give you better advice then.

It’s been a crazy few years. 3 super close members of my family passed away unexpectedly. My grandfather was placed in a nursing home. I had to move in with my mother. Living here is hard because eveyone fights constently and no one gets along. I’m alone always. My friends are never around and that’s only the half of it.

You had and have a really tough time, its horrible what happened to you. It is always painful to lose someone. You had to go through great pain.

Do you still go to the therapist? Do you still take anti.depressants?

Oh yea, I know such a ‘home’. Everyone is screaming and shouting and quarelling and you are left alone, not knowing what to do, just wanting to have a family.
But arent your friends around? It would good if you could stick with them and maybe sleep over sometimes.

And hey, I am here to listen. Tell me all that you want, go in detail wherever you like. I’ll stick here with you.

Yeah I still see the therapist and all but I havent for a few weeks she was all booked up until next monday. Yeah I’m on Paxil have been for about 2 weeks now. My family doesn’t know about it tho they wouldn’t understand. The way they act would just make things even more difficult ya know?

Your far from being unabled to be helped. You are your own most motivator. If you don’t care, no one else will sadly. Some medications work better then others. You might ask your therapist to add one, or change the one your taking to see it you feel any improvement. Depression hits millions of people with little know causes. Just don’t give up on getting back to feeling better. depend on yourself. Friends for some, only want bothered if you are in a good mood or, stay on the up -beat all the time. Really not frinds at all, if they can’t be there for the bad times too. Oh, well, I guess you are learning the hard way who your true friends really are. Replace them when you get to feeling better with new ones. You can’t miss something you never had.we will always be here for you to give you a listening ear and friendship. on that you can depend on. Wishing you the best and hope you get better soon. Give me a shout anytime you want :)

Ok but does it help you? To talk to hear? Somewhat at least?
And well even if it not relaly changes anything at least you can talk with someone.

I understand what you mean with your family, I really do. And it is ok if you dont want them to know or talk with them, but you should consider to talk with people who can maybe talk with you more often than your therapist. Well, for now maybe just come here online and talk with us, or shout me whenever you want to.

Time will tell, and believe me there cant be always bad times. Like there are never just good times, there arent always bad times either. Things will get better, with time but they will.

I know that the posts are a little bit aged but since I got in this page looking for someone that felt, at least once, in a similar way like i realised myself yesterday: “i’m just like a disease in this sick world, whose existence is destroying the ones who loves me most.” — I write: you are/were not the only. I believe this feeling will pass with time. I hope.
(from Brazil, Latin America).