Love help: Well I’m Cassi, I’m 18 and I live in Indiana.

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Well I’m Cassi, I’m 18 and I live in Indiana.

I had a boyfriend (Ronnie) for almost 2 years, it would of been 2 years in January. Today we broke up. The reasoning is.. my mom wants to move to Pennsylvania around June and there’s a big chance that I’m going to have to go too but I don’t want to because I want to stay here and be with Ronnie.

Throughout my life I’ve lived in 4 different states, (Pennsylvania, New York, Indiana, Louisiana) and some of them more than once. Like Indiana. And when I moved back here I said that I never want to move to a different state again. It’s tiring and I hate having to leave the ones I love. Especially in this case, because Ronnie is the love of my life for sure. He is like my world, the one I’m closest to and my best friend. We planned our lives together. Plus Indiana is more like my home rather than the other states.

So anyway, I graduated high school back in May but Ronnie graduates this May. I still don’t know what I want to do for school like, go to college or go to a school just to learn one thing then pursue my career. Ronnie is going to college next fall. I’m actually waiting to get my license and that can be in January, and my original plan was after I have a car I was going to look more into schools to go to. If I can find a school and rearrange a place to live by June, then I can stay here. But if I can’t or if something happens then… I’m going to have to move to Pennsylvania where I know no one but my family I live with now and my Grandpa. That would be too clean of a slate to start a new life on. I want to stay here and be with Ronnie. Although I will miss the family I live with now which is my mom and 3 brothers. I see them everyday and it’d be very hard having my 2 youngest brothers grow up without me there on a daily basis.

I just really need some help.. I don’t want to go on without Ronnie by my side, but then again I don’t want to see my family go on without me. This is all super hard and depressing for me.
Can ANYONE help please ?

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casmith07 0 #
Columbus, GA, US | 1 year ago (8 minutes after post)

You’re 18 years old — you have so much more ahead of you. Do not put all of your eggs in one basket! If Ronnie really cares about you he’ll want you to pursue your dreams and help you in that!

My advice is to take your butt to college! Make sure you get your education!

Kalorok 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (11 minutes after post)

my advice would be being with Ronnie until he graduates, even tho it’ll be like half a year apart you will still be strong together. arrange some living arrangements but do not give up the love of your life because of distance. even if you stay local and go to school where Ronnie is living. your family is family but there cmoes a time in everyone’s life where you must fly from the nest. you and Ronnie love each other, keep it like that!! firstly!!

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xCassi 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (15 minutes after post)

Kalorok wrote:
my advice would be being with Ronnie until he graduates, even tho it’ll be like half a year apart you will still be strong together. arrange some living arrangements but do not give up the love of your life because of distance. even if you stay local and go to school where Ronnie is living. your family is family but there cmoes a time in everyone’s life where you must fly from the nest. you and Ronnie love each other, keep it like that!! firstly!!

hah, that made me cry. Thanks.. I actually think that might be what I really want to do..

Help me with: I don’t know what I want to go to school for.

Kalorok 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (16 minutes after post)

tears of joy i hope

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Kalorok 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (17 minutes after post)

and even if u do move away and in may he comes up to school up there with u, post secondary can be your “savior” in this case

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xCassi 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (21 minutes after post)

I think they were tears of joy but then again sadness. Joy because I really think that’s what I want to do, but sadness because of having my family leave. But they will always be family.. Ronnie might not always be my boyfriend.

But he wouldn’t want to move away from here, that would be nice though if I did move and he did too. He made plans here already though and we already talked about all of that..

Help me with: I don’t know what I want to go to school for.

casmith07 0 #
Columbus, GA, US | 1 year ago (25 minutes after post)

untitled010 wrote:
But they will always be family.. Ronnie might not always be my boyfriend.

Family will AWLAYS be there for you. Until your significant other becomes your family by way of marriage, family should always come first.

hunnychick0 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (26 minutes after post)

Not to sound all pessimistic, but at your young age, you cant give up your family for a guy. If you two are both serious about each other, and can trust each other, then being away for a few months wont do any damage. Unless you’ve got a plan for yourself, stay with the hand that feeds you ;)

xCassi 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (28 minutes after post)

We are very serious and have all the trust in the world for eachother. But if I moved it wouldn’t be for only a few months, if that was the case then there’d be no problem at all here. And it’s possible for me to have a plan by June when my mom wants to move but I just don’t know for sure if I can do it.

Help me with: I don’t know what I want to go to school for.

xCassi 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (30 minutes after post)

casmith07 wrote:

untitled010 wrote:
But they will always be family.. Ronnie might not always be my boyfriend.

Family will AWLAYS be there for you. Until your significant other becomes your family by way of marriage, family should always come first.

That’s another thing that makes me feel bad for even thinking of staying here and having my family leave me, is knowing that saying “family should always come first”.

Help me with: I don’t know what I want to go to school for.

hunnychick0 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (33 minutes after post)

You’ve still got nearly half a year to figure things out. If you want to go to school, apply for the same school he’s going to. Or if school’s not your thing, see about jobs and housing in that area. There’s no reason to break up now.

xCassi 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (39 minutes after post)

Thanks.. maybe I’m going to have to start my life at my early age if that’s what I have to do. But also the only reason why he wanted to break up this early is because he wouldn’t want to break up right when I moved (if I did) because that would be even more hard. So he wanted time for us to get used to the fact that we’re not together anymore before the moving came.

Help me with: I don’t know what I want to go to school for.

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