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I need help.

My husband is verbally, mentally, and emotionally abusive to my self and my four children. I know the easy answer is to leave but I have no money and it really isn’t that easy. Financially we’re in a very bad place right now, but so are a lot of other people, I do know that we’re not the only ones. I am very worried about Christmas, plus my oldest is having a birthday on December 3. As of right now I have less than two dollars in my acount. We recieve foo stamps but that’s at a zero balance until the fifth of December. I’m legally blind and extremely hard of hearing so finding a job hasn’t been easy in the past, but now with two toddlers it’s proven to be better to stay at home with them. It’s a benefit to them, plus the cost of day care is insane. My husband just finished one of his fits and my two oldest children are telling me that they aren’t coming home from school tomorrow until he’s gone. I’m freaking out I thought finances and the holidays were taking enough of a toll on my nerves but now I have him screaming at us and saying what a crazy b***ch I am. I know this is no way to raise my children but I can’t leave with no where to go and nothing in my pocket to take care of my children. So what can I do?

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casmith07 offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Columbus, GA, US | 1 year ago (2 minutes after post)

Sounds to me like you need to get out of there. Perhaps it’s best if your kids don’t come home? Maybe you can find a friend that would be willing to take you in. What about your parents?

Best of luck. The holidays are no time to be stressing.

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Kalorok offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (4 minutes after post)

yes, casmith has a good idea i was going to say the same.. you need to get out of their for your kids’ sakes. get your parents to pick you up and get someone you know and trust to take care of you. once that is established file for divorce and charge his *** as well as pay child support… and dont put it off, do it fast before its too late

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1 year ago (15 minutes after post)

Places of Worship. If you don’t have family or friends that can help you out, sometimes the pastor of the church (or the rabbi of the Synagogue etc) has information on places to go. If you tried talking to the pastor/rabbi/whatever, inconspiculously after a service, or writing a note to him.

I disagree, don’t go too fast in your planning. If you go too fast you could make it noticeable, and you don’t want him to suspect you are leaving.

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val26 offline Verified User (2 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (56 minutes after post)

Perhaps a woman’s shelter in your area could take you in until you can get on your feet

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (13 hours, 27 minutes after post)

Im only 13 years old and you might not think i know that much on this subject but trust me i do. My dad used to abuse me and my family (mum, brother) the same way your husband does to you. So your not on your own.
I really reckomend talking to someone in confidence.
Maybe a phoneline. Its sounds stupid but slowly it will give you confidence to leave or adress the problem. If you live in the Uk i recommend WomenKind. (My grandmother works for them.) Its free to phone up and they will give you support and advice that you might not be getting of others. WomanKind will also give you help on seeking a job. (search for them on google) Also i agree with the comment above maybe look into going into a women’s shelter. This will help you to have shelter and provide for your family, until you are able to do this yourself.

What your husband is doing is wrong and either he needs to do something or you do!
I think maybe talking with him about it could help and if no sign of change then plan action! Tell you parents and arrange for a date and time when he is out to leave and stay with someone. If worst comes to worst then ring the police. It seems dramatic but trust me its affective.

Good luck x

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