friends help: so my supposed best friend is not so great like i thought… - Help.com

kyleschwent wrote:
like, omg…this is retarded

like, OMG.. im crying bc u dont care (boo-hoo) my life is ruined one person can care less….then no need to reply!!! thanks

val26 wrote:
I think you need to take a step back and examin your friendship. Everyone changes and a lot of the time moving out of the house and having your first roomate can change you a lot. I’m assuming your friend went away to college and if this is correct you need to brace yourself for many changes to come. She is a young woman and this is exactly the time when she is going to begin coming into her own. She will change no doubt about it. It is during this time when friends do drift apart. It seems as though you don’t like the way she is talking about her roomate behind her back and you have two choices: You can talk to her about it, about how you see her changing and just talk through what you are feeling. OR you can not talk about it and either stay her friend and ignore it or let her go as a friend and sum it up as drifting apart.
…I do understand where you are coming from my best friend changed a lot when she went to school her first year. Somethings took awhile to get used to but in the end she was still the same girl that I grew up with and love.

well it is more like we meet our freshmen year of college… we are all “friends” but it is almost like spending so much time with them u thought u knew them but were fake when u were “bonding”.. well fake is harsh but i remember my friend saying when we first meet “were in college know u can b who ever u want” so i dunno it just confuses the $hit out of me!!!

val26 wrote:
Well then it really just sounds like she is being her true self and if that isn’t someone you like than perhaps it’s time to put an end to the friendship… or at least take some time apart

yea thats what i decided but it gonna be rough… we all hangout with the same group of people… i just have to be the stronger person