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Recently, I moved away from my old town into a BIG city.
And moving away was a scary thing, especially in the type of city where everything and everyone was a stranger. In my old town, I had a close knit of friends. But now, after so much time has passed (1 year), I start to wonder how close we were. The focus of this discussion is on a single person, someone who I thought cared a great deal about me.
Moving into this huge new town, I unfortunately encountered a massive hurricane 8 months after my arrival. A natural disaster is a scary thing for anyone to experience; I had no water for 5 days and no electricity for 12 days. I attend college and my school was cancelled for a week. A curfew was issued at 9pm every day for a week after the hurricane just in case any looters decided to take advantage of the disaster. The heat was so horrible, and without any way to ventilate my living facilities, the smell of my place became almost unbearable.
I am a stranger in this city. And can you believe none of my close friends ever decided to contact me? I would run to coffee shops and restaurants that had electricity to charge my phone, only to listen to the absence of messages. The day I finally got my electricity back, it was my ‘closest’ friend’s birthday. Despite the fact that she had no interest in contacting me throughout my whole ordeal, I sent her a ‘happy birthday’ message.
To which I wrote something along the lines of, “You’re lucky, I just got my electricity back so that I can wish you a happy birthday.”
To which she replied “Hmm I wondered if the hurricane had any effect on you?”
I send her a message of how the hurricane DID have an effect on me. I never heard any sort of reply. It seems to me that if I were in here position, I would have made every indication that I was concerned about her well being. We haven’t spoken since my reply message, and I wonder why. Recently, I wrote her another message, and yet, still no response.
My question is, should I move on? But more importantly, why is my “friend” being unresponsive. I thought we were close, and it really hurts my feelings that she would forget about me when something difficult happened.
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