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What do you do in your spare time? Try forgetting avout yourself for a bit. Volunteer at a local shelter or something to help you feel worthwhile. Sorry I don’t have better advice!

Maybe the people around you don’t know how to act because they know how you feel and they don’t want to do the wrong thing.
If someone doesn’t know you that well at work but they know you’re awfully sad and lonely, they may not know how to approach you.
People too may be overwhelmed with everything you have to say…they may not be able to take on that much because there is a lot going on in their lives too.

I would consider a counselor as that person you need to talk to

Well actually if I had a nickname it would be Mr. Volunteer. I actually tried a soup kitchen once but Im not into the religeon side of it and was constantly pressured into participating so I left. Im also in the military so there is the ultimate volunteering for you lol. But thats running low on the enthusiasm if you cant tell. Plus Im also a volunteer Firefighter and EMT. Like I said its not like I dont try to find resources. Just running out I suppose.
Emily.
In my line of work mental instability would forfit the few joys I have. about 6 years ago I went to a military counselor for some light depression issues and the reaction I recieved was easily considered overkill. I had my shoelace’s and belt taken away and I wasnt allowed to shave because my razors were taken away. Not to mention my security clearance would be revoked. I want to get profesional help Emily I really do. At this point I think I need it. But the effect on my professional life would only make things worse.

Hmm well would the next counselor you see have to be in the military? I don’t know much about it but they seem to be awfully strict about mental health issues.

Yeah they are. Anytime you start giving them the impression you hate your life they take preemptive measures. The problem with a civilian counselor is they can get expensive and considering between me posting my first post and this one my roomate called me and told me shes moving out today so Im pretty sure Im gonna be running a tight ship for the next month or two lol

Unfortunately I do not know how the military mental health services are run.
It could be that last counselor was too cautious…or they could all be like that.
But I don’t see this getting better on your own unfortunately. Either with more professional help or medication…I think one or both of those things could help

Maybe so. i think I jsut hae to approach this with kid gloves. If I were to persue counsling/meds it could make things better or severely worse so I have to be careful with it. I just wish I ddint have to walk on eggshells