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My friend doesn’t accept that I can have other friends, too.

I was recently in a play and I’ve been doing them for a while, too. I love theater and of course, you’d make friends with other people who enjoy it as well.
I have a friend at school that I’ve known since kindergarten or so. I tell her about my friends at the play and how much fun we have and all the jokes we tell.
Now my friend at school started saying things about those people and how bad they are-and shes never met them before!
I told her she was jealous and she half-heartedly admitted she was.
But today, I was talking to her on the computer and she started going on and on about it again and she said in capital letters afterward, “I AM NOT JEALOUS”.
Now, shes upset with me and I don’t know what to do because I don’t want to be friends with her anymore if shes going to talk about my other friends this way. It makes me confused and a little bit depressed because the friends I have from the play actually listen to my problems and I have fun with them.
What should I do?

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james_liverpool_uk offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 16 #
Southport, L8, GB | 1 year ago (4 minutes after post)

Maybe she’s just going thru a bad time? Every time I’ve pushed a friend away I’ve regretted it, and every time I’ve waited for them, I’ve been glad. Make sure she knows you still value her, and give her time and space to get her head sorted. Friends are like balloons, once you let them go you can never get them back. Well, you can sometimes, but you look pretty daft chasing after them… Worth it to get a friend back of course.

miss sunshine offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (17 hours, 18 minutes after post)

I absoultly have exactly the same problem! (me and u are very similar, both want to be actresses and have friend problems!)
My friend is being a total jerl to me and my new friends who i actully prefer to hang out with, cause there jst so much nicer
I know its really hard as you don’t want to upset ur friend but u hate her talkin about ur new friends like that,
wat i do is just be strait with her and tell her to stop talkin about them like that,
My friend totally backed down, and everytime she is horrible just put her in her place,
I know its hard and it took me 3 years to be able to stand up to her, don’t make my mistake
act now before she thinks she can walk all over.

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miss sunshine offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (17 hours, 21 minutes after post)

…you
and also, i’m learnt that if u go off with ur new friends she will be be very nice to u as she is so scared that she will lose u as a friend.
so even if u go off with other friends she is not goin to dump u.
U could also try the nice approach and talk to her though.
Good luck !!
Wow i can’t beleive me and u are so alike!!

Miss Sushine xxxxxxxx

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madfinnlove offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 day after post)

miss sunshine wrote:
…you
and also, i’m learnt that if u go off with ur new friends she will be be very nice to u as she is so scared that she will lose u as a friend.
so even if u go off with other friends she is not goin to dump u.
U could also try the nice approach and talk to her though.
Good luck !!
Wow i can’t beleive me and u are so alike!!

Miss Sushine xxxxxxxx

thank you. :))

x) we should be friends! Im gonna add you!

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La.La.Me.La.La offline Verified User (10 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (1 month, 2 weeks after post)

She is your friend she is just worried that you dont love her anymore!
But you really need to tell her thatt she means everything and that you guys should be aloud other friends aswell.
let her know she is still close to your heart.
And dont run off with your other friend because that will just hurt her more and that will show her that you dont love her anymore.
your friend should accept you hanging out with other people but you also need to think if you were put in this postiton what would you do?
i know if i was i would feel like my best friend has just abandid me so really think about this one.
also think….who has always been there, who will always be there, and which one is your true friend. im not saying go ditch the friends you have made at ‘’drama'’ but please dont forget about your friend after all she has been there since kinagarden and maybe just feels a bit left out how you always talk to her about the friends you have made at ‘’drama'’ so talk to her about all the goodtimes you guys have had and how you will never forget her!
……Grace……..

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cutest.gymnas offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 6 days ago (11 months, 2 weeks after post)

Ok, I am in the exact same position and I’m going to take Grace’s advice.
My friend is the actress though… LOL! she is always hanging out with other kids and discluding me. I totally feel left out. I am trying to be the better friend and let it go but when I bottle up my anger, she can tell something is wrong and I’m afraid to tell her about it because she
gets hurt so easily… She is always hanging out with girls I’m not very good friends with and she doesn’t like when I hang out with her other friends… I dont get why though it’s hard
and her dad is really strict and he is always joking around with me and being strict with her and she doesn’t like that he likes me and jokes around about having me around and she gets angry… Why does she do this? that’s kinda irritating but I don’t want to lose her she is my best friend.. we even have lockers next to eachother and still shove notes in them…
WHAT SHOULD I DO?! i am going to try to talk to her but im afraid she will get upset…
:’( why is life so complicated?

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