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I am dating a guy who lives 75 miles away and i really like him but none of my friends think that it will last because of the distance.

I haven’t seen him in months just because i dont drive and dont have anybody who can take me to see him. Is this healthy in a relationship?

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Mushroom8 offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (18 minutes after post)

Not always. Depends on how much of a connection you guys have and how much work you are willing to put in it. My partner has just moved over 400 miles away, he used to live 45 miles away but I tried to see him at least once a week, now I see him every three months if I’m lucky. It is difficult, but if you really want to make it work and you put the effort in it shouldn’t be a major problem.

Is there any public transport there? It’s maybe worth making a weekend trip. And, depending on your age and priorities, is it possible to move or take a break holiday type thing to visit and have a good chat about the relationshi.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (23 minutes after post)

I am only 15 and i live in an area with no public transpertation cuz its a really small town, none of my friends have their license :( but we have a great connection and our feelings are really strong but im afraid that they will faid over time and thats the last thing i want because he’s everything i ever wanted

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (30 minutes after post)

I would do something personal, like write letters and get him to write back. Having something to physically hold will help keep that connection. What about him visiting you?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (51 minutes after post)

he’s the same age..we do talk on the phone every night though none of his friends are willing to drive him that far but we’ve been trying our hardest so we can at least spend christmas together

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (59 minutes after post)

The situation isn’t ideal, but if you are willing to keep up the enthusiasm and put in the hard work then anything is possible. It’s unfortunate it’s come at such a young age, but when you can pass your driving test and go and see him it will make all the hard work worth it.

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