Year help: I have always thought about running away from home, just for the adventure. - Help.com

I used to think about running away too. To experience the freedom. But i don`t know if you would get any more freedom. Maybe you would think about what the people at home think. Then you won`t be free anymore. Yet i`m interrested in your plan..

I think you like the idea of running away because you probably feel enclosed and yearning to explore, but running away isn’t ideal. Why don’t you raise some money ad go backpacking round Europe or something. It will fill your need to exploring whilst doing it in a safe and practical way, because I can assure you if you just run away without fully thinking it through you’ll end up unfulfilled and unhappy probably. Is there definitely nothing you feel like you want to escape from? Reality? Society?

go for it!

I always thought about running away too…
Advice? Well, really my advice is to keep it as a wonderful dream. But if you really want to do it… Life costs a lot of money, you’d be surprised. Take enough to live on. Take a mobile phone, and use it if necessary. Know where you’re going and where you will stay for the first few days.
Your parents will be hurt and upset and the police really narked, so have a good story.
Really, my advice is go on a holiday with a few friends. Safer, easier, no hard feelings.

The plan. I will simplify it as much as possible, as I have about five pages about it.
For clothes, I shall bring a light jacket, a poncho, my boots, two pairs of socks, three pairs of pants, and three short shirts.
For food, I shall bring four bags of dried fruit and two bottles of water which I shall refill, although I plan on buying most of my food as I go. Other necessities may be my library card, some form of I.D., and approximately $150-200 dollars.
Non-necessities may include a deck of cards, paperback books from the library, my cell phone, a notebook, and my watch. All this would be stored in my backpack. It may sound like a lot, but it isn’t. I’ve tested it, and it weighs only about 11 pounds.

My main concerns are how I where travel and where I shall travel to, where I shall sleep and how safe that place is, where I shall shower, how to acquire the money, to bring along someone or not, the weight of the supplies all day in the heat, my story if anyone asks about why I’m alone, my punishment, legal or parental, my safety, and the weather.
I have most of these figured out, but my main question is: Where can I go and what do I look for there?

Dunno dude, I’m a parent and it’s hard not to disapprove. I’m trying but…
They’ll be so scared. They’ll be so hurt. Could you not take a mate, tell them you’re going, do it above board?

I suppose. I would do it in the summer, as to not miss school. It wouldn’t be as big as a deal then, would it? Summer adventure is what they call it, isn’t it?

Depending on your age it’s probably not the best of ideas. You may think you are mature enough to take care of yourself etc, you will feel unsafe in unfamiliar territory, and your safety, a person wandering around on their own is a bit of a target. But, you say you are wanting to run away, but where to? What is your final destination? What are you wanting to achieve from this? When you’ve run away, what then?

Sorry if these are not the answers you are wanting to here, but our main concern is your safety. It’s your decision, we can only offer your rational advice.

You see, it’s only to last a week. I would come back, to address your main question.

I know the feeling. When I was 17 I went on a roadtrip across the country for about a year. I still have it. A big thing about it is make sure you are ready. Safety is a huge issue. Truthfully nobody can stop you. Ofcourse depeneding on your age it can be a real safety issue (Strangers, they’re real.) I say wait atleast untill your ready and you know it. No doubts about it. Absolutely none! Including your familys oppinions! Safety concerns…and blahdeblah!

I have all the time in the world, really, to think through this.

I gotta say that I love your perspective on things!

Thank you, but what do you mean?

Anonymous wrote:
You see, it’s only to last a week. I would come back, to address your main question.

Only a week, huh? Scare your parents to death and restrict your further movement till you’re out of the house…

Did you read all this?

Anonymous wrote:
Did you read all this?

No actually. How terribly lax of me.

On second thought, before the real worries started, it would be immensely liberating.

Hmm. Just the initial idea that hit you? But why did that statement stick out at you, then?

Anonymous wrote:
Hmm. Just the initial idea that hit you? But why did that statement stick out at you, then?

Sounds kind like what I think about. Course, I’m not adventurous, and very intent on shooting down ideas sometimes.

You blew your anon…

…

That’s a funny, almost adult sounding phrase…

tee hee.

*puts serious cap back on*

Debate is fine, but I don’t have many points on this yet.

Do you only have the idea ‘Don’t go, it is bad, it won’t be fun, etc.” ?

Anonymous wrote:
Do you only have the idea ‘Don’t go, it is bad, it won’t be fun, etc.” ?

Inaccurate, more like, “the fun will fade, and you’ll have to deal with much grief when you return.”

I understand that, and the way I see it, the knowledge and experience is worth it.

But what will you learn? “Being hungry sucks” Being on the lam blows” “Money is needed to get anything”?

What is ‘the lam.’
Did you read it all, yet? You might understand better if you did. Maybe not.
I’m not sure. Mostly human behavior and what it’s like to be at the bottom.

Anonymous wrote:
What is ‘the lam.’Did you read it all, yet? You might understand better if you did. Maybe not.I’m not sure. Mostly human behavior and what it’s like to be at the bottom.

People basically suck, and being at the bottom sucks.

I read the post.

Not all the replies…

Are you sure? I’d like to understand why.

Anonymous wrote:
The plan. I will simplify it as much as possible, as I have about five pages about it.
For clothes, I shall bring a light jacket, a poncho, my boots, two pairs of socks, three pairs of pants, and three short shirts.
For food, I shall bring four bags of dried fruit and two bottles of water which I shall refill, although I plan on buying most of my food as I go. Other necessities may be my library card, some form of I.D., and approximately $150-200 dollars.
Non-necessities may include a deck of cards, paperback books from the library, my cell phone, a notebook, and my watch. All this would be stored in my backpack. It may sound like a lot, but it isn’t. I’ve tested it, and it weighs only about 11 pounds.

My main concerns are how I where travel and where I shall travel to, where I shall sleep and how safe that place is, where I shall shower, how to acquire the money, to bring along someone or not, the weight of the supplies all day in the heat, my story if anyone asks about why I’m alone, my punishment, legal or parental, my safety, and the weather.
I have most of these figured out, but my main question is: Where can I go and what do I look for there?

And where would you do it? Close o home the police will just pick you up and take you to your parents.

Anonymous wrote:
Are you sure? I’d like to understand why.

Conflicting goals, selfishness.

Greed, also.

I have places to stay in mind.
And, really, I don’t want to take your word for it. I want to see for myself.

Anonymous wrote:
I have places to stay in mind. And, really, I don’t want to take your word for it. I want to see for myself.

Live life and find out for yourself is the best attitude to have I guess. What places? Next to relatives, older friends? Police will look there too. When a teen girl goes missing, they will likely assume you got snatched away, and will send out an amber alert. Lots of fuss. Unless you leave a not stating your intentions of course…

Note, of course.
And what if, hypothetically, I want to grow up to be a construction worker and want to travel the world this way, and this is just a test run for a potential plan?

Anonymous wrote:
Note, of course. And what if, hypothetically, I want to grow up to be a construction worker and want to travel the world this way, and this is just a test run for a potential plan?

Then, this being the hypotheticals and us being able to insert whatever situation we want in here, use would this be? You cannot really travel the world in such a way in a week, you can’t work construction so young, and you’d likely be mugged.

I mean hypothetically in the future, silly! When I’m hypothetically older and get my engineering license.

Then the situation is entirely different, and is moot to this discussion.

Okay.

So…

Yes, well. Come up with any other points yet?
I will not do such soon. I will not do such until I’ve weighed all my options and come to a specific conclusion.

Only the prerequisite “What-ifs”. What if you get mugged/raped/killed/hurt.

What if I get mugged?
I will have been mugged…
I would call someone. Police, parents, etc.
As if that answer was not obvious.

Ah yes, you’d lose all your stuff, be away from home, possibly stabbed/shot, potentially raped as well….

Obvious.

Obvious. It’s obvious what would happen, really.

And obviously, you’ve formulated a plan to make sure this is avoided.

You know me, do you?

In a sense.

Scent?

Anonymous wrote:
What if I get mugged?
I will have been mugged…
I would call someone. Police, parents, etc.
As if that answer was not obvious.

I mean this kind of attitude. Just straightforward no bullshit.

Thank you.

Anonymous wrote:
Scent?

No, I know you, in a way…

What way?

An online way.

Oh.

Any way, you minds made up, So no point to try and dissuade you, not even sure if I should anymore.

I understand.

Sweet. Peace out and all that…

Why?

Why not?