home help: what do i do if im being verbally abused at home - Help.com

Speak up and defend yourself? Or, tell an adult or an older sibling?

by whom? boyfriend? girlfriend? parents? siblings?

I’m sorry, but if there isn’t a threat of or any physical violence, you are experiencing very normal family affairs. If you feel like you are in danger of physical harm, call the police. Otherwise just yell back at them and deal until it stops or you can leave.

ooh verbal abuse is so difficult, do talk to someone outside of the home about it, depending on the extent of the abuse, it might just be normal family life like Cabesa describes but if it’s more serious then it’s more difficult to deal with on your own. Break the silence, if you’ve told the person you feel you’re being abused by and they are not responding positively ask someone else for some help/guidance. Asking here is a good first step, but to find the solution with other people’s help you need to share more details, either on here or with a trusted person in the real world, a teacher maybe if you are still at school?

cabesa de fuego wrote:
I’m sorry, but if there isn’t a threat of or any physical violence, you are experiencing very normal family affairs. If you feel like you are in danger of physical harm, call the police. Otherwise just yell back at them and deal until it stops or you can leave.

actually verbal abuse can b much more damaging and harmful than physical abuse. the old saying “sticks and stones can hurt my bones but words dont mean a thing” is the biggest lie ppl tell their kids. word not only hurt but can actually “brainwash” people. verbally abusive people are very manipulative and can make their victims actually believe what they are saying. Also verbal abuse is not just sisters fighting over a sweater or a parent complaining about the car with an empty tank of gas. It is humiliation and degrading…it is constant putdowns, and a kick when your down.
I feel your pain and all I can say is fighting back is not gonna solve your problem…you need live with them until you canleave safely and you will experience true freedom….good luck and God bless

i am verbally abused and so i started to cerbally abuse back he only got worse i finally began to hit him every word felt like a punch i wanted him to understand i feel bad about it but he will vebally assault me so ba he did it in our home in front of a female he ignored me we watch movies with her he bought her stuff and then degraded me she degraded me i can not make him stay away or couldn’t make her leave cause he is in charge finally i threww her out he followed so i went to apologizeto her that night i did she got in my face i hit her he defended he having another man hold me he strangled me she hit me myt husband held me down while she beat me i got charged with assault and domestic violence!! in the past he would attack me call the police and i would ask them to take me cause he said if i didnt take the heat he would get even.. while in jail he said he would come get me when i could behave? am i wrong for fighting back? i have no money and am phsyically ill…i cant work he threatens to take my son have me committed how can i fight back in court when i have no legal proof of his abuse except my sons and mothers word?

I would say don’t feed the fire. It was wrong of you to take the blame, because that leaves no evidence for the police to deal with. My suggestion would be to LEAVE HIM! At the same time I can understand the difficulty of that action, but belive IT IS POSSIBLE!! Another option would be to take notes of the verbal abuse, any possibloe physical abuse, take pictures of bruises, wounds, anything! I do not recommend fighting back, because you are physically ill. I would recommend reading up on self-confidence/same situation literature anywhere you can possibly find. Possibly find some support group with people who have been in and got out of your situation.

I hope I could help.

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