job help: ive got a really bad temper as well as a few other iner battles….ive - Help.com

You aren’t alone with having anger problems. Out of curiousity, what kind of counseling did you finish? Was it for anger management?

I asked my question because it’s clear that you need to get yourself a better sense of inner peace. As you become more accepting of yourself and confident about the fact that in a spiritual or psychological sense you are invulnerable, it becomes easier to laugh off the frustrations of life. Anger management techniques like walking away and counting to ten can help you from hitting people, but a real and lasting solution to your problem will come from dealing with the low self-esteem you say you have. It might take more time than the 9 months of help you got. It might take resolving issues with your family. All of this can be difficult and time consuming. Keep going to therapy. Find out what is causing your self-esteem issues and you might get the solution to your out of control outburts. Finding religion can also be helpful. I like the lessons of buddhism myself, but finding faith in Christianity or anything else can help just as much. Gaining a faith in a larger meaning to life can go a long way towards bringing us calm and perspective.

What you say makes sense. All I can add is that as long as you are willing to explore your background, and make changes, you should be able to make progress. I wish you luck. It’ll be tough, but at least you seem genuine in your desire to get control of your anger. That alone means things will get better eventually.

Try to use the techniques you learned in anger management that will help your self esteem a little. Counceling actually helps the longterm. Yes after you leave the office you feel good. but through talking through whats going on in your head and life you might actually find what is causing the anger and depression. Only you truly know what is wrong. But its burried deep inside you and the councelors help you find it. There is no quick fix to this so please be patient I know its hard. Trust me it took my doctors 11ish years to diagnose me properly. Part of that was due to having to switch councelors. Try as hard as you can to stick with one. There is nothing wrong with you, you just have a problem many people face in one way or another. The solution you are seeking will come remember that. Please don’t get discouraged. Oh and by the way if you believe you will fail you will its a self fulfilling prophecy. I am guilty of it too.

No I don’t think there is anything wrong with you… most mental disorders are chemical imbalances in the brain that can simply be remedied with therapy and meds. That anger hun you make the decision to do it (mind you subconsciously) and then you act on it. The trick is to fight that urge using the anger managment techniques. They do work but you have to practice them. The more you practice them the easier it becomes to use them. … I’m Bi polar… I get nasty depression and anger swings, the compulsive cleaning is amusing though. theres other stuff that goes along with mine butit would take a year to explain my eccetricies. I am medicated and lead a normal productive mundane life.

A standard anti depresant like zoloft prozac welbutrin and the likes will not mess up your head they are pretty mild. Now as far as gaining wieght I actually didnt have that issue but that should be the least of your worries. I suppose its normal I am the mother of 2 I hold down a job and take care of my household without to many complaints. My husband tries to understand as best he can he knows that I do have an illness that at times is hard to conrtol and usually he disapears if it gets to bad to handle.. but that hasn’t happend since I have been on the right meds. Until you get yourself in a better emotional state there is no reason to try to have a relationship. They will be doomed to fail. Once you have a grasp on whats wrong you can then start relationships of course with full disclosure about whats wrong and what might happen if some of your symptoms flair up. The med work great but on occasion you will have a minor reacurance of the problem. But nowhere near as bad as before the med. With my bipolar I can feel it coming on and I usually busy myself with cleaning or go do something outside and try to just apriciate nature. For me it helps. Try an anti depresant it might just be what you need to take the edge off the depression to find out what is triggering the anger and depression. Unfortunatly my disorder is life long and trauma induced and enheireted. I’m stuck with it but I understand it now. You might just luck out and be able to find out what is causeing it and resolve it and not be med dependant like I am. But what ever it is it is treatable just be open to their suggestions it never hurts to try something. If it doesnt work then you move on. Don’t get discouraged just try to get better. Like I said my path to recovery took many years but my disorder wasn’t exactly text book symptoms. Be honest with doctors completely and tell them everything you experience even if you think its unrelated. That was the key to my diagnosis. I didnt think my OCD was related to the depresion and anger issues. But I was so wrong. Have faith you will get better. And don’t be afraid of meds or treatments look to your family for examples of that. Normal is all in the eye of the beholder don’t strive to be exactly like “everyone else.” Even people without mental issues aren’t that “normal.”

I hope all goes well with you also. Its no problem give me a shout out if you need anything.