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Should I call?

My girlfriend left me three months ago because she took my reserved personality as me not liking her. Over the past three months I have been texting and met her a couple times expressing my feelings. I can tell she still cares however her guards are up and push me away. I want to tell her no matter what I love her, life is so short and I would hate for something to happen to either of us and for her not to know. She wont reply to any text or anything now but I want to tell her. Its kind of sad that people are pushed away by someone’s love once they left then once you ignore them they come back. I wish that wasn’t the case.

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Anonymous #
1 year ago (4 minutes after post)

or should I just text her like, life is short and I would hate for something to happen to either of us and you not know I love you.

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Hellacious Haro offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 Add Friend #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (8 minutes after post)

If you decide to do it, I would suggest that you call her.
Don’t text.

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Anonymous #
1 year ago (10 minutes after post)

It’ll prob turn her off then in months from now she’ll be like awe I messed up which is ironic but I dunno I was just thinking we all take life for granted and never really tell the ones we love what they mean to us.

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linuxya offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 15 Add Friend #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (10 minutes after post)

You can either try to change your personality to suit her or you can find a girl who likes you for who you are. Trust me, there are girls who like and respect “reserved” guys.

Chase girls who like you for who you are. Life is too short to bend yourself to suit someone else.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (13 minutes after post)

all you can do is tel her how you fel and hope she accepts it

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (13 minutes after post)

I agree it would be nicer for you to call than to text. Maybe just to invite her our for a walk to look at Christmas lights downtown & for hot-cocoa. I know it may sound cheesy but…girls like sappy stuff like that… plus it doesn’t cost much and could turn out to be a nice way of talking…if your walking not a lot of eye contact has to be made…ya know…until the cocoa part! :) Good Luck! But, if she’s not up for it then you’ve got your answer and it will be time to move on.

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Anonymous #
1 year ago (14 minutes after post)

she went home for break

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faithbaby199 offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 0 Add Friend #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (14 minutes after post)

call is better

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Anonymous #
1 year ago (15 minutes after post)

I’ll call her tomorrow I guess

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Hellacious Haro offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 Add Friend #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (16 minutes after post)

Good luck, anon.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (16 minutes after post)

Augh ??? I see then just give her time to be with her family for now. Thanksgiving call her to wish her a Happy Thanksgiving and see how it goes…when she gets back from break try to contact her again…don’t over do it though…it could scare her away! Good Luck :)

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faithbaby199 offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 0 Add Friend #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (17 minutes after post)

good idea

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Anonymous #
1 year ago (19 minutes after post)

k call on thanksgiving then when she gets back. well I am not sure when because she is going to come back early (we have until jan off) I’ll figure it out she’ll prob call then

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (22 minutes after post)

yea
mabye since she is away from everyone she will make the right decision

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Anonymous #
1 year ago (25 minutes after post)

she is a little stubborn and hurt from her past so it’ll take some time for her to realize. I’ll say she messages me on the 16th dunno why but yeah. She’ll come around, I’ll have to be the bigger person and put all of this behind us.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (30 minutes after post)

yes you will have to it takes a long time for girls to get over certain things

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pink sparkle offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 Add Friend #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (33 minutes after post)

Call her… If she won’t pick it, email her, or write it in a letter with a Christmas card and advance Christmas gift. :) Good luck.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 3 minutes after post)

yea actually shes eright bout that tooif she doent talkto you before christmas

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Anonymous #
1 year ago (1 hour, 9 minutes after post)

I dont know her home address.

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faithbaby199 offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 0 Add Friend #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 15 minutes after post)

leave it 4 her somewhere else

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Anonymous #
1 year ago (14 hours, 10 minutes after post)

I got her home address.

When I call thurs should I just say happy thanksgiving and not the I love you…

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (1 day, 5 hours after post)

Good that you have her home address already…Go send her an advance Christmas card with your “I love yOu” letter and a gift. :) Good luck.

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An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (6 days after post)

shes right so go do it

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