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Hm. Well, first off I have no belief in God. I actually find it makes my life easier. I don’t have to question why things happen to me (like my wife dying in front of me) or if I should feel bad about feeling depressed or suicidal at times. I can simply accept that life happens and I have depressed moods.

Depression happens. Lack of exercise and poor diet make it a lot worse. Isolation is bad too. You have to use the thinking part of the brain (vs. emotional part) to force yourself to socialize, find upbeat people, do new stuff, eat properly, and get some exercise. Make a routine and you’ll feel better.

Yeah, life is tough. I lost my wife to death and my job and started over (what seemed for the nth time) But I’ve experienced a lot of good stuff too. Running, biking, new social groups, and a fabulous girlfriend (after 3 other dating disasters).

You can do it. You got to change your thinking though.

I agree with linuxya, how you think is how you are. If you dwell on the depression you’ll stay with it. Change your thinking, tell yourself you’ll go for a walk at a specific time, do the same for grocery shopping, set a time and just get up and go. Engage a friend to do things with. You have to chase a positive attitude, it won’t come looking for you.

I’m sorry. I dont know what to say.

Your psych is a retarded jerk. They have a duty to their patients to stay with them and help them and should never leave you, especially when you are in such a state.

The Lord works in strange ways, keeping you from that person whom you feel so connected to seems very mean. I can’t comment on it though, because I dont know how He thinks.

You have the right to feel sad about your children going other places. You seem very blessed, but those blessing could come back to you time and again. Can you make your life about anything else other than children? I am sure it is hard, but I know you can do it, and we will be here to back you up all the way.

It is really hard when plans get changed. I never go to a party that my brother invites me to with people from church unless I was invited myself. I dont like to impose and I can really empathise with your sentiments here.

With the wanting to die, I feel like that most of the time too. I am not going to kill myself, but it seems it would be so much easier if I just died. Please dont do this though, it would be a tragic loss. You have given so much to the world, and it owes you a favour.

Nothing is ever so wrong or so bad as to justify hurting yourself. I see that you are at least reaching out to others for help which is a great first step so talk to us.

Ive been where you are, and the only way out of it love, is to go up. Depression breeds depression, you can go to as many docs as you want, but their answer is usually to put you on medication. I found that there is only one person thats going to get me out of this and that person is me.
You’ve seen the commercial on t.v which says Depression hurts everyone ? its so very true it does, family and friends don’t know how to help you, and your depressed state makes them depressed too.I know this sounds harsh, but you are probably going to find people will make excuses not to have you around at family gatherings. This happened to me too.
So Sweetheart, this is what I did, your mind controls a lot of what we do in life, so I pulled myself up by the bootstraps, told myself Im going to control this thing, I did some research and found that lack of VitD absorbed through the skin can bring on depression, statistics show Americans lack in the absorption of Vit D through their skin.
So once a day or twice, I made myself coffee and sat outside for half an hour and read a book. It doesn’t
matter if its cloudy you’ll still get the light which is the important thing.
I began to study fitness and nutrition,I joined a Gym and started working out, this also gave me a social scene to be with other people. Try your hardest to get out there with people, whether it be a social club, find an interest anything.
The more you stay at home alone hon, the more you will sink into that black hole, you have to have positive thinking all the way, no down thoughts at all, take up meditation, learn to push those negative thoughts out of your mind. Have something to aim for, its really hard for you, I know this trust me, but you have to help yourself here.
Come here and chat, there are always people here to talk to, we shout back and forth like a messenger via the shouts. Its not much but it makes you feel less alone. Do this for you hon, just try ok :-)

Don’t sweat over the shrink, men quit. God on the other hand does not. The word says to remember the hope we have in Christ.

dont think suicide try to keep positive and keepgoing
keep u happy

Another thing Anon is, make a daily effort to get dressed up, put some make up and perfume on, I know you’ll sit there saying “uhhh I cant be bothered,I really don’t feel like it, I just want to sleep” but you have to, and after a while of hauling yourself to that mirror and doing it, you’ll find you start to feel better in yourself. While you stay in bed sleeping, you are going further down, you have to be brutal and make that effort.
Ask yourself this question, do I want to be a part of my families life again ?? if you do this is what its going to take, because trust me you are bringing those loved ones down too, they don’t know how to help you, and seeing you sad is making them sad too.
I know I sound hard, but Ive been here and I saw what it did to my family as well.
Heres a virtual hug because I know you need one (((((((((((((( Anon)))))))))))))) you can do this love, I know you can :-)

Everyone who believes in God gets angry at God. Why wouldn’t we? 99.99% of what most people experience says that there is no God. And yet that tiny fraction of experience that compels us to believe is so miraculous, even though it doesn’t supersede nature. The truth is that God doesn’t answer. We rationalize that he/she does by acting or not acting in circumstances according to our wishes. For me, faith is not being sure of anyone’s collection of beliefs but my own. I believe in God, but not in answered prayers. I don’t believe God is busy, indifferent or cruel, but just being born. I can’t hold a baby (even a divine one) accountable for the incomplete nature of the world (which encompasses my hardships).

I agree with Bogdan that your shrink was a jerk.

I agree with Sasha that you need to sit in the sun and read.

If you are sure you’re bipolar, then all the positive thinking and sunshine in the world won’t balance your mind; you need meds for that. Whether or not you go back on them, you need to talk to another psychiatrist. See what a non-jerk shrink thinks.

And while I may not agree wholeheartedly with Sasha on the meds issue, I do agree that change has to come from you, not from outside, not from heaven.

Don’t despair. It will get better, you know it will.

i have been there,

the way i got through it?

well lets see i made sure i went out as much as possible, do you have the time to take a couple of days off? my life was falling apart and i was depressed and angry and felt like nothing like i didnt belong like no one would ever understand me like it all was just **** and pointless, i went to this retreat with my church now im not saying to do that im just saying that maybe if you did something like that were you got away from all the crap and got some perspective it would help, anyways so i went and met tons of people and well idk just started feeling better having people to talk to, another way i dealt with it is write poems a lot i lol have written over 70 and counting and whenever i feel down i write, oh yes and reading, reading takes all stress away for me maybe it could the same for you? and i agree with sans it will get better, for inevitably there will be something that will come along to improve your life, anyways you have my prayers and i wish you luck hope you feel better. peace.

Just take it one minute at a time. And I literally mean that. Keep busy for the next minute and the next ….

My friend, are you on medication for depression?

Secondly, would find another psychologist.

Lastly, we love ya and most everyone knows your pain as we have been there.

Take care,

Cot

Sorry it took me a while to reply. I guess I was waiting till I felt better.But that hasnt come yet.I didnt go to t-giving dinner . I didn’t want to be a gloomy gus in front of a lot of people.the only thing that im optimistic about is my daughter is in labor at home so a new baby is due anytime. I asked my g-son over and again he want to go to his step brothers so that hurts.Im wondering if I should just let go of the great guy I met online since he hasnt returned my calls and its been 2 months.Any thoughts on that anyone?

Cotton2226 wrote:
My friend, are you on medication for depression?

Secondly, would find another psychologist.

Lastly, we love ya and most everyone knows your pain as we have been there.

Take care,

Cot

No, Im working on getting something natural and taking vitamins.

Two months? Forget about him. Wasn’t meant to be!

I’m getting a quiver of Nerf bats ready to smack you with for not going to Thanksgiving dinner . . . you don’t usually get “engraved invitation” for such occasions. You should have gone, and you didn’t have to be gloomy. Now, don’t let Watson and me catch you home alone on Christmas day! [Sound of Nerf bats coming down on Kim!]

Hello, I am going to send you an email… but until you recieve it, I want you to know this.

It’s been two months already? Oh my goodness, girlfriend, let your heart rid of him. You mentioned that God won’t let you have him… uh hun, have to say that GOD knows best and GOD refuses to allow yourself to be someone’s door mat!

You and this guy are not together for a reason. Think about it… if this guy has it in him to treat you like this, how would it be if you were together? You have to ask yourself, that are you hanging on because you are lonely and need someone to fufill a void in your life? Anything or anyone you fill this void with is still there, it’s just ignored.

There is something deep within you that is not so much as lonely as looking for acceptance. It’s plain to see that in what you have written, you want acceptence in your family and they have lives of thier own, so you live a self fufilling prophesy of let downs and failures because you think that no one cares enough. They do!!!! Life is busy and we all forget and neglect but this is where you come into play. You cannot give up on yourself, and you need to find security and peace within to be okay in with who you are and be okay with being alone.

Stepping away from God is not going to solve problems… in fact when times get tough that is when we should press in harder. And being without Him only makes that void more darker and more hollow.

You have my email, use it, we are friends, and sisters in the Lord… God says that it is a sad thing when a brother who falls has no one to pick him up… I am here to pick you up and walk with you daily if need be. I do not want you to feel alone and abandoned you are not!

So let’s work at this together okay? K, gonna send you that email now.
I LOVE YOU!
ALWAYS your sis,
Shannon

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