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I love my girlfriend to death but i also love music.

I want music to be my career but she loves cooking, so wants to go to college for culinary arts ,, and she feels our careers will pull us apart, cause I’m hoping to be on the road during or shortly after college, touring, but my girlfriend says she needs some one there all the time for her and that she cant handle me being on the road and being alone… we have debated giving up each others careers but we decided against that but i cant let her go, what should i do, I love her so much but i want her to be happy she says that its looking like were not gonna work, but i don’t believe that …what should i do, or tell her to make her believe that we can work, i mean ill only be on the road for at most 2 months at a time and home the rest of the year …i need help.. i need some advice on what to do!!

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Neutra offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 19 #
An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (7 minutes after post)

Follow your career. Stick with the most important thing and go with what you want to do in life, don’t hold it back for anyone. I would suggest that you try to find a way to work out doing your career and being with your girlfriend in an efficient manner so you can have them both, but if you can’t, stick with your life’s goals, and so should she.

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12 months ago (9 minutes after post)

i think that your girl friend sould be supporting your dreams and try and make it work for the both of you. it sounds to me like shes being a bit selfish. make her understand how important this is too you and that you wanna try and make it work. she’s going to have to make a compremise wit you on this if you want it too work but you shouldn’t have to give up your dream

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BaconByAnyOtherName offline Verified User (2 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (18 minutes after post)

but what about how important her career is to her? Shes in the same boat as our friend here, and just as confused. we should stop saying “**** her, follow your dreams” and think of a mutual solution.

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veg_head offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (20 minutes after post)

You should both focus on your careers right now. If she isn’t willing to compromise for you and you aren’t willing to compromise for her maybe that is your solution.

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Barbyman offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (22 minutes after post)

well i would stay close to her cooking .You always going to have a good Meal..

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An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (24 minutes after post)

follow your career
and ask her to wait for u mabye you both will figure something else out thats god for both of you

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BaconByAnyOtherName offline Verified User (2 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (25 minutes after post)

music is a fickle business, friend. Go big or go home, and even 80% of those that do go big dont make it.

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THE INTERNET offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 9 #
An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (29 minutes after post)

be a musical cooking duo.

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momoffivedaughters offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (29 minutes after post)

Compromise…every traveling band needs a road chef !! Pay her to provide the meals for the group!!! It’s a cool gig for her and you both. Hey! Ya’ Never Know??? Could work out!

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BaconByAnyOtherName offline Verified User (2 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (33 minutes after post)

momoffivedaughters wrote:
Compromise…every traveling band needs a road chef !! Pay her to provide the meals for the group!!! It’s a cool gig for her and you both. Hey! Ya’ Never Know??? Could work out!

unless she can go to home-cullinary-college, then thats going to be problematic for a while, at least.

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An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (33 minutes after post)

that sounds god

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An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (36 minutes after post)

kevinfederlin wrote:
have you seen the movie hannibal?maybe you could kill her and eat her organssometimes a stew of intestines mixed with her half decomposed **** tastes very goodThen you would have no problem being apart because she will always be a part of you

hur hur hur

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THE INTERNET offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 9 #
An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (44 minutes after post)

kevinfederlin wrote:
have you seen the movie hannibal?maybe you could kill her and eat her organssometimes a stew of intestines mixed with her half decomposed **** tastes very goodThen you would have no problem being apart because she will always be a part of you

i loled at that one, regardless of it’s lack of helpful information and bad taste.
besides, the girl is the cook in this story, he would probably end up burning her and then it would all be wasted

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antoniocardenas offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 10 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (46 minutes after post)

Why don’t you guys give it a try?
You already know what is the worst that could happen (getting separated) so… what is the big hurry to do it now?
I don’t know about you but giving up before even trying sound very ilogical to me.

Man, you are not trying to see if you can jump to the other side of the grand canyon with your own legs, you are trying to make a relashinship work d*mn it, so at least f******** try it.

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momoffivedaughters offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (51 minutes after post)

Dr. Foreman wrote:

momoffivedaughters wrote:
Compromise…every traveling band needs a road chef !! Pay her to provide the meals for the group!!! It’s a cool gig for her and you both. Hey! Ya’ Never Know??? Could work out!

unless she can go to home-cullinary-college, then thats going to be problematic for a while, at least.

Oh! My Bad, I guess I did place the cart in front of that horse…(sorry not referring to the girlfriend as a horse) was thinking they were both out of school and deciding where to go with their careers…Lord, knows I can’t multitask after midnight! Ok..so lets go with your advise instead…Your the doctor :)! But, the Momma loves yal’ anyway!

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momoffivedaughters offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (53 minutes after post)

Dr. Foreman wrote:
music is a fickle business, friend. Go big or go home, and even 80% of those that do go big dont make it.

There you go again blowing “sunshine” up everyone’s butt again! Dr. please play NICE!

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THE INTERNET offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 9 #
An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (57 minutes after post)

momoffivedaughters wrote:

Dr. Foreman wrote:
music is a fickle business, friend. Go big or go home, and even 80% of those that do go big dont make it.
There you go again blowing “sunshine” up everyone’s butt again! Dr. please play NICE!

it was merely a displayed fact.

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antoniocardenas offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 10 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (1 hour, 12 minutes after post)

FIGHT THE POWAH wrote:

momoffivedaughters wrote:
Dr. Foreman wrote:
music is a fickle business, friend. Go big or go home, and even 80% of those that do go big dont make it.
There you go again blowing “sunshine” up everyone’s butt again! Dr. please play NICE!

it was merely a displayed fact.

99.99% of the statistics can be corrupted, done poorly or invented.
He’s deliberately being rude after the second comma.
Besides, the fact is that the boy is making a decition between two things he wants. Maybe his girlfriend is unatractive, or is the most attractive girl of the world, and maybe he has the biggest music offert or has none… That’s not the point.

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momoffivedaughters offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (1 hour, 47 minutes after post)

antoniocardenas wrote:

FIGHT THE POWAH wrote:
momoffivedaughters wrote:
Dr. Foreman wrote:
music is a fickle business, friend. Go big or go home, and even 80% of those that do go big dont make it.
There you go again blowing “sunshine” up everyone’s butt again! Dr. please play NICE!

it was merely a displayed fact.

99.99% of the statistics can be corrupted, done poorly or invented.
He’s deliberately being rude after the second comma.
Besides, the fact is that the boy is making a decition between two things he wants. Maybe his girlfriend is unatractive, or is the most attractive girl of the world, and maybe he has the biggest music offert or has none… That’s not the point.

“Thank You” …I think :) I hope she’s the most freaking hot girl in the world to him! Then the music he’ll brings us with be full of passion :) Ya’ know!!! He’s a lucky guy …atleast he’s in a relationship…! What’s he need our help for? Good Night ALL!

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