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Both get the equally benefited, just in different ways.

agree with bogdan

thanks for ur opinion, the thing is… My mother inlaw is so sure i’ll be the one losing if we are not close, i think it’s the other way round..

then dont make it a competition…
the moment you do…
then you wont have a truly fulfilling relationship with her
sometimes its ok to kiss ***..

i wish i had a mother in law.
i’m not married.
he didnt want to marry me

shelley, it’s not a competition actually. She’s not so nice, she wants me to be nice to her at allcosts. i live in Africa.She’s not employed, i am, she’s not educated, i am . she’s old, i’m not. What exactly might she be threatening me with? if i don’t dance to her tunes? i have no idea.

i dont know either
but you know what my mum says…
if you love your husbands mother…
your husband will love you more ;)

The daughter because her marriage will be effected more by the relationship

I suppose it depends on how close the man is to each of them. If he’s really close to his mother and the daughter-in-law doesn’t get on with her then it could cause problems in the marriage. Or the mother-in-law could end up feeling pushed out of her son’s life by his wife.

I’m guessing that’s how your mother-in-law feels, she’s worried that her son is going to be so caught up in his relationship with you that he won’t have time for her, so she figures if she forges a friendship with you then she won’t lose him. Maybe that’s why she isn’t nice to you - because she’s jealous that her son has someone other than just her in his life.

Maybe if you talk to your husband about it and the two of you can reassure her that he’s still her son and he still loves her even though he’s married to you. I hope you work things out :)

Angua, thanks for ur reply. It sounded really mature. Well, her son and her never got along. i tried to be nice to her but she frustrates me. i think she is really jealous that i have what she doesn’t.