friends help: I am needy in relationships and I think it’s caused by me not having many friends and my family not being close. - Help.com

What?

needy*

I fixed that for you

You will need to meet other people, try to make friends outside of your relationship. Focus on hobbies as well

I have no more relationship. Over as of last Thursday.

How old are you?

23

Do you have a job outside the house?

No

Do you have a job? Hobbies?

I have no online business. No hobbies.

I meant I have an online biz but no hobbies.

Well that would be a problem
You need to have a life outside, meet people, socialize and not have all your focus on one person.

I don’t know where to start. I tried before and I just end up lost and confused.

A good place to start may be voulenteer your free time to a cause you feel strongly about. You will meet people who care about the same things.

I have no problem with casual relationships. My problem is converting those casual relationships into friendships. For example I’ve had other jobs before where I’ve made friends, but those friends stay friends at the job. I’ve never really made too many friends. I’ve always had that problem.

Why do you think this happens?

I think it goes back to my youth. My parents both worked a lot of hours and didn’t want me outside by myself so I had to stay inside because they couldn’t watch me outside. I failed to learn those basic skills of friend making years ago. Even as a kid I was somewhat of a loner. I only made friends with people who sort of came out of their way to meet me. It’s not like I don’t want to make friends I just don’t know how.

Well , based on that I think you would benifit from my suggestion of voulenteer work. It would give you a chance to be social with people that have someting in common with you. You will have another form of social and mental stimulation outside of a romantic relationship. Your focus would be spread out and not concentrated on one.