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well if you really like him enough to stay with him stay with him
if not let him go and say its just not working out i am having some issues right now not with him just yourself and you need to figure them out alone.
Dont feel bad
its not your falt

You BOTH deserve better… a better you. Dig yourself out of your pit. I’ve been there myself many times and I always end up concluding… my girlfriend deserves better, so I’ll be better. Yeah, it’s a constant challenge, but what isn’t?

The best cure for depression is action. Make a list. Keep the items small and manageable and easy to do and check off. Go out and walk, exercise, run. Join some social groups. Don’t focus on your boyfriend as your sole social outlet.

Think of new things, ideas, experiences you can bring to your relationship. A relationship is a project. Work on it together. Make contributions. Find out what his goals in life are and help him reach those goals. Stop focusing on yourself… all you see are your problems. Listen to him, help him, and you will feel better and your relationship will strengthen. (and for all those women who immediately complain about being doormats, the point of this is that it is only by making contributions to a relationship that you build up the other person’s trust in you… if that person uses you and drains you, you just chose the wrong person… it doesn’t mean that your approach to building a relationship was wrong!)

Saying “Oh, he deserves better so I’ll just give up” really is kind of pathetic, don’t you think? I’ve said it myself… but I realize it’s pathetic. It’s just a way of letting yourself cop out.

Sounds like you have a lot of issues. Have you tried talking to your boyfriend? Is his best friend a female? And would he mind if you dated them both? These are questions that you might want to ask him.

littlenick wrote:
Sounds like you have a lot of issues. Have you tried talking to your boyfriend? Is his best friend a female? And would he mind if you dated them both? These are questions that you might want to ask him.

I talk to him a lot about my problems but i dont want to burden him. His best friend is male.