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Sometimes when we feel depressed, it’s almost as if when things are going well we sometimes wonder when it will all come “crashing down”. We expect bad things to happen almost.
You say it seems he doesn’t want to spend Thanksgiving with you. Are there any other explanations like maybe he can’t or he wants to you’ve just assumed he doesn’t?

I am totally like you! If my boyfriend said that I would be very upset and automatically assume the worst!
But, what if you were to say to him, “I was hoping I could see you and your family for Thanksgiving at some point” or “My family and I were hoping to see you tomorrow for a while”.
Maybe he just assumed Friday would be better because it will be less chaotic!
I try not to give men the benefit of the doubt trust me! But it wouldn’t hurt to be honest with him and let him know you’d rather see him on Thanksgiving…
:)

Oh man I definitely know what you’re saying. I learned the hardest thing a few months ago and that’s to try not to expect anything!
I hold all these hopes up against my relationship and my boyfriend but I realize that a lot of the time these expectations don’t come true.
So, I guess the best thing is to not expect anything.
I’m sure millions of people would like it if their significant other would welcome them with open arms. I know I would. Unfortunately we have to learn that they love us in other ways and realize they most likely won’t ever say the things we want them to.
At best we can let them know how we feel, I know I certainly do (I wish you would hold my hand more, why didn’t you invite me?) Those types of things.
It may seem like nagging but hey, it’s better than getting upset when expectations go unmet