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Ok, I know it sound stupid, but I met a guy 2 months ago.

He lives in other city, where I was with my work for couple of days…any how we start talking and mailing each other, after I left, everything was very nice in the beginning. After he told me he wants serious relationship, as I have possibility to move in the same city!!! We talk only over the telephone and mails, and suddenly he just stopped…just like this overnight and nothing was the same any more…..I ask him what happen why he change, so he have some “problem” we can stop communication - he said has problems around work and family and insist what we have is not one night stand. We continued massaging and very rear talking on the telephone. I was in the same city 2 weeks ago we saw each other…every think was fine, he seemed very happy to see my after a month, but after I left…. the same story no calling, just texting time to time………I’m now in the town again, we saw each other only once and he has excuse that he work a lot and so on…..
Obviously all the staff he said for relationship wasn’t true, but I believed him!!! The problem is I cannot really get him out of my mind!! I feel very upset and I want to get his attention back, even which will not be the right thing I have to do!!! And I am not leaving there, becoming even more difficult!!
Please help!!! I know I just should to go on, but I don’t wont everything to finish just like this!

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littlenick online Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 131 #
An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (18 minutes after post)

Sound like someone who is already in another relationship or worse, married?

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An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (22 minutes after post)

Find a hobby.
I know, it sounds snarky, but that’s what I did when my first bf left me because I believed in chastity.
I found a hobby that would replace the thrill of the relationship. It ended up being Karaoke, and it really helped, because I was getting out and doing something different and meeting people with similar interests.
I actually ended up meeting my husband through Karaoke.

It’s like replacing one addiction with another, only in this case, it’s replacing a person with something that is more reliable.

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An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (1 hour, 48 minutes after post)

Ishalesa, he didn’t want to communicate further with you because he is involved with a woman in his own city. He has either a girlfriend, or a wife. He thought better of it after you left. He would have too much to lose to pursue a relationship with you.

I am sorry, but this kind of thing happens all the time. In fact, 36 percent of all guys who sign up for those “dating websites” are married.

Last advice: do NOT move to his city in the hopes of reconnecting with him!

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chev.jame offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (1 hour, 49 minutes after post)

P.S. YES, he IS a cad. Forget about him.

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An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (20 hours, 41 minutes after post)

Ishalea, I a sorry to say this but it sounds he is not being honest. He obviously has no backbone. It will hurt for a while but always remember they is always something better around the corner you just have to be patient.

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An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (22 hours, 48 minutes after post)

You were, Ishalesa, a “target of opportunity” for this cad. He is already committed where he is. P.S. Not all men are like this. But if a guy doesn’t call you back, won’t have you visit him at “his place,” you should be smelling a rat.

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