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If you really care about her, you can wait. If you can’t wait, it’s lust, and you need to find someone else who’s not quite so emotionally fragile.

Drop her like a hot tamale! She’s just using you and you are going into a rebound relationship. Don’t. Let her cool off or get over her ex before you talk to her again.

i defently think u should stad well back if she has a thing with her ex but is leading you onits not fair on you.

are you currently seeing her? like do you guys “do stuff” or is she just a prospect?

let her go and focus on your own happiness. simple.

daisey1974 wrote:
let her go and focus on your own happiness. simple.

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Buy a pet lizard and take it with you wherever you go. So when you see this girl and you feel like kissing her, kiss the lizard. That way you will associate the disgusting lips of the lizard with kissing this girl and you will never want to kiss the girl again….the lizard on the other hand may want to end up marrying you!

She is not over her *x* you said. It is what it is. To try to stay in this relationship is just asking to get more hurt, then you already are. even if she did agree to be with you, you’d only be used as a re-bound b/f. I don’t think you want this. Find someone who is willing to take you as you are. Not someone take you to possibly help get over an *x*. It might be hard, but if truly are seeking mutual caring relationship, then you have to be open to other possibilities then just her. good luck :)

agree agree

seas light wrote:
She is not over her *x* you said. It is what it is. To try to stay in this relationship is just asking to get more hurt, then you already are. even if she did agree to be with you, you’d only be used as a re-bound b/f. I don’t think you want this. Find someone who is willing to take you as you are. Not someone take you to possibly help get over an *x*. It might be hard, but if truly are seeking mutual caring relationship, then you have to be open to other possibilities then just her. good luck :)

As everyone else said, I think she’s on the rebound, its not a good start to any relationship, let her get over the ex, then if she wants a relationship with you she’ll find you.

Being depressed over her and trying to win her at the same time will only cause problems. You are sad when you see her and you probably don’t realize it but that can make you less fun, less flirty,less exciting, etc. You need to be feeling good and when you’re feeling good she’ll be feeling good. Also, you probably come on as sort of desperate trying soo hard to make it work and that’s a turn off too. Look, she knows you really like her. You did all you can do. I know it hurts, but you should back off before it drives you crazy and causes you even more pain. Give her space and come back to her in a few months and try again or wait until she comes to you. If the day comes when she does get over her ex she’ll be curious about you and she’ll be looking you up..trust me you are on her list.

I agree with the responses you’ve gotten so far. Esp. Mar98. It’s really important that you take care of yourself. You will feel better and be better when you do.

1. Focus on yourself. No one else should come before your own happiness.
2. She needs to deal with her own issues, you can’t help her.
3. Accept that she may not be the one and move on.