Year help: How do I get motivated to lose weight? - Help.com

I know how you feel about being afraid to go out because everyone is looking at you and thinking you dont belong because you are overweight. its hard, and friends dont understand when you dont want to go downtown with them or whatever, they think you are just being flaky.

Hey I know what your talking about. I’m a 5′3, 17 year old girl who is 160 pounds. Over the past three months I have lost 20 pounds.

I might be able to help.

Everyone has a trigger for why they eat the way they do. Whether they have a sweet tooth, its convenient, or like me; it’s because of stress and when I’m upset I over eat. If you find the trigger then you can help yourself by either eliminating the trigger or even just by recognizing it you can make sure you don’t do it then.

I’m not very active either. My main reason is that I just plain don’t have the time. But eating less and healthier can help loose weight too. Your body has adjusted by eating more food, so when you eat less and healthier, your body is still thinking that youre taking in the same amount as before, so it’s still burning that much.

A way to eat healthier is to make a list when you go grocery shopping. Only get the things on the list, no impulse buying. This onl works if you put healthy things on the list. If you love your junk food, allow yourself one day a week where you can have that junk food for one of your meals.

Chewing gum can also help when you get the cravings to just snack on something.

As for the avoiding dates thing because of stretch marks. I say just go for it. If they don’t like the stretch marks then it’s their problem. As well, there is some cream out nowadays that can make stretch marks less visable (sorry but I can’t for the life of me remember what it’s called). I know the self conscious thing very well, but people are more likely to notice when a person is trying to hide themselves, then when you can visibly see that the person is comfortable with themselves.

If you don’t like going to the gym, then don’t go. You can do home excersizes instead. Possibly even go for a walk or jog.

I hope something here can help.

Thank you both for your messages! You gave some good advice and I think you’re right about the whole trigger issue. After high school I really lost a lot of contact with my friends. I haven’t spoken to them for nearly a year. I haven’t been out with anyone lately becuase I don’t have friends anymore. I think I started noticing I was gaining weight my senior year and I became self conscious then and just pulled away from friends. There is a health club near my house and I really want to meet a nutrionist or a personal trainer, but I just have to get over that fear of everyone watching. Thanks again and I really hope I can just get over this bump!

As for the feeling self conscious in the gym, everyone starts somewhere, that’s what the gym is for, for people to get fit and lose weight.They see right now a person that trying to lose weight, by the summer they will see a hottie that has accomplished what she set out to do.
Try looking at the site Biggest Loser club.com, what I would tell you is right here, eat small healthy meals six times a day, this will boost your metabolism. Take up some cardio and weight training, muscle burns fat even while at rest. Set yourself a reasonable goal, buy a pretty dress two sizes smaller and hang it on your closet to give you something to aim for. When you get into that dress buy the next size down, something cheap will do it doesn’t have to be expensive. Do this for you , don’t worry about everyone else, this is for your self esteem and health.If you drink soda make it the first thing you stop, its like poison you are literally drinking your calories. Best of luck to you :-)

Thank you Sasha. I like your idea of buying a dress a couple sizes smaller. I think that would give me motivation to kind of think of how I not only with look, but feel too.