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I have been feeling soo hopeless and feel that life is completely pointless now.

I am in my second year of university, dont know if its because of the change or not.. but ever since the end of my first year in uni, i’ve been getting bad news, one of my close relative got terminal cancer, and i have been really upset about it. Got into a near mental breakdown just before the summer ended and i had to get back to uni.. now i’ve been isolating myself, dont find any motivation to join societies and clubs, sometimes prefer to be alone, but sometimes feel taht i am too lonely.. most of my friends seems to have moved on in their lives at their uni, and being away from family and close friends make me feel worse.. i sometimes think that it is time for me to grow up, but i am really scared to, ive always depended on my family and close friends, now i am away from them.. still not quite settled in the uni yet, cant find someone that i can talk to well.. :( and got bad grades lately at school.. and the other day got freaked out as someone followed me all the way back to the front door of my house.. had to call police, its jsut these weeks, it occured to me that i HAVE to come in face with reality and all the bad things .. its just overwhelming me.. i dont like it, i dont like the life i am in now.. :’( cna someone tell me what to do with life.. i know i sound whiney and dont want to grow up but i m feeling really down from whats been happening, ive never had this type of feeling when i was back home

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- Fourthings™ - offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
Ballinteer, 07, IE | 1 year ago (7 minutes after post)

Talk to your family, tell them how you feel, and ask for help, that’s what families for.

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mango offline Verified User (2 years) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
Fort Collins, CO, US | 1 year ago (10 minutes after post)

I’m sorry that you’re feeling so down. Life can really suck, sometimes, but things change. If you just stick it out, new opportunities will open up for you.

If your family is supportive, talking to them could really help. Also, a lot of universities have a counselor that will talk to you for free. If your university has one, that person probably has lots of experience and information for people in just your situation.

If nothing else, you can always post here.

I hope you feel better soon, and I’m really sorry to hear about your relative.

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Cell offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 54 #
Winnipeg, MB, CA | 1 year ago (2 hours, 19 minutes after post)

Call your mom to talk about it?

Make a point of making a few good friends. Look for friendly, positive people in your classes.

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An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (15 hours, 40 minutes after post)

It sounds like you’re fighting independence. It can be a pretty difficult thing to confront.
Most Universities have counselors. Try talking to someone. They may recommend some groups for you to join with people in similar situations. But here’s the catch: if you really want to feel better, you need to break away from the norm. This means breaking your pattern of avoidance. So far it hasn’t gotten you anywhere, so you need to try something different.
Good luck!

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An Unknown Location | 5 months, 2 weeks ago (6 months, 2 weeks after post)

hey; add me on AIM; sss3dspy
ill talk to you and make you feel better.

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