Love help: I’m feeling a little depressed about the holidays. - Help.com

That’s too bad that they don’t want to share this with you but don’t let that ruin your holiday with your husband and son. Spend it with people who can appreciate the hiloday time.

You have your own family now. Isn’t that wonderful! You are truly blessed.

It is okay and normal to be a little depressed sometimes, especially when a lot of things are changing. Depression exists because it is the brain’s way of letting go of something. Feel free to grieve for the things that you are leaving behind, and remember to celebrate the things that are ahead of you. Although painful, sadness is our way of processing disappointment and loss (and all change includes loss). When you miss your family, try to think about the things that you love about them. When you wish they would be present, think about why you want them there, and perhaps write some of those thoughts down in cards to send to them (you are even allowed to send multiple cards to a person in one season, if you are so inclined). It will help you feel connected, and it will brighten their holidays as well. Even if you think they would find the cards unusual, you can bet that they will remember and value your words.

Depression becomes a problem when it starts to interfere with our lives and relationships. For example, sometimes the process of “letting go” of things doesn’t terminate when it should, and we start detaching from things that are essential to our happiness and survival, like our family, friends, job, life, etc. If you start to lose interest or feel sad to such a degree that you are having difficulty keeping up with basic activities over an extended period, you should talk to a counselor to help figure out if you are at risk for more serious depression.