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okay.

I have been dating this guy for sometime now. I’ve liked him for a very long time and he finally confessed the same to me a few weeks ago. we’ve been together everyday pretty much and acting like we are dating. however, he hasn’t actually asked me, and made it official. which is questionable in itself. he has this thing where he will say he will be right over and then he doesn’t come for a few hours and just keeps me waiting. it’s obnoxious and i’ve told him so. tonight he TEXTED me from his brothers cell phone telling me that he has family night tonight at this house and so he can’t hang out and he is sorry.

might I add that is 19 YEARS OLD! he clearly would not be stuck at home for a family night. also, his family is ABSOLUTELY not the type of family that would do that. and I drove by his house tonight and his car was not there, nor was his brothers. at least I don’t think so, I just took a glimpse but I am nearly positive. what do I do about this? is he even worth a second of my time? I don’t want to handle this like a baby, so can someone give me some good advice? I like to play dirty ;]

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I want out offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (8 minutes after post)

He is full of it
don’t give him your time

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An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (16 minutes after post)

okay but you have to bare in mind that I have liked him for a LONG time. and when we ARE together he is sweet. lastly, he is so unbelievably my type that I feel like he must be worth a shot. maybe not?

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An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (24 minutes after post)

I was in love with someone for 6 years who freaking did **** like this to me. I always kept trying to justify his actions ..but after so much, it was clear to me that he just didn’t care anymore. Just because you’ve liked him a long time does not mean he won’t hurt you. It also doesn’t mean you should ‘give up’ ..but don’t ignore the red flags either.

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An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (29 minutes after post)

do people like that ever change? or is it just their nature to be selfish? I guess I keep hoping that he will realize I am worth changing for. but honestly, I have been through too much bull to be very patient. at all.

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An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (35 minutes after post)

In my opinion, people like that don’t change. You can give and give all you want ..but they will remain the same. I was with that guy for 6 years and it just kept getting worse. I think you have right to be impatient and upset right now. He’s playing games with you, it seems.

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An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (39 minutes after post)

This guy sounds like he’s too wrapped up in his own life to consider your feelings. If I were you I’d tell him you’d rather be friends if he doesn’t want to take you seriously and leave it at that. Do it like it really doesn’t bother you at all to just be friends and see what he does.

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