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I would make the move because usually girls don’t. So unless you wanna be waiting for ages, just bust a move ;D

“expect”? Why bother with expect.

If she hasn’t yet, and you want to, then make a move.

Why the hesitation?

I would expect the guy to make the move.

For some reason, girls expect the guy to do the asking. A good number of the posts we get here are girls wondering why their crush hasn’t asked them out yet.

I only expect it because I’m too shy to do it myself, lol. :P

I am also shy :(
Oh so many lost opportunities. Ah well!
Just go for it man…. carpe dium! Seize the day!

A lot of guys are shy, too.

sj wrote:
obviously the guy. That’s just how it works. Girls expect the guy to make the first move, cuz the guy is kinda the “leader.”

In the 1940s, maybe. Women ARE equal now, last time I checked.

Leader? LOL.

♥ tiffany! wrote:
Leader? LOL.

but you do expect him to make the move. That kinda says you are expecting him to be the leader?

I’ve been asked out about the same amount as I’ve done the asking. It’s great when you meet a girl and she decides she likes you and is comfortable with it.

sj wrote:
I’m not saying girls are inferior, but that’s just how it works.

or doesn’t work as sooo many posts show. :-)

Not really. I’m fairly okay to make the first move once I’m actually in a relationship. I’m just really shy with people who I don’t quite know. Does that make sense? :/

So even if you have never talked? You all mean I should wait for the guy to make the move?

*make a move.

Not make the first move. :P

Better to get to know someone first. :)

Also… men are such great leaders aren’t they? lol
Lalalala…. Hitler…. lalalalala… George Bush….. lalalalala… John Howard…. lalalala…. the list goes on!

sj wrote:
Personally, I don’t want to ask a guy out. I want a guy that is caring, but still ready to lead. I don’t mind waiting awhile for the perfect one.

Oh you will be waiting a while for the perfect one!
Cos there is no perfect one…..!

if i was the girl id be wway shy so make the move i wish boys would

Dougie the Pisces wrote:

sj wrote:
Personally, I don’t want to ask a guy out. I want a guy that is caring, but still ready to lead. I don’t mind waiting awhile for the perfect one.

Oh you will be waiting a while for the perfect one!Cos there is no perfect one…..!

Perfect one for her? Yeah there is, caring and leader and asking her out.

dixiedixiedixi wrote:
if i was the girl id be wway shy so make the move i wish boys would

LOL, you wish the right boys would…

Dougie the Pisces wrote:
Oh you will be waiting a while for the perfect one!
Cos there is no perfect one…..!

Nope.
Their are aren’t any perfect girls either. We all have our flaws.

There*

:(

I’m so tired that none of that sentence makes sense anymore. Ignore it!

So basically a girls job is just to make sure he KNOWS she’s interested? The guy I am interested in may be a bit shy. I do not even know if he is interested. How can I know as I do not know him?

No, that is not a girl’s ‘job’.
If he’s shy ..then ask him. Or make small conversation. If I REALLY liked a guy, I would ask him out, despite my shyness. It would just be really hard.

If you’re not quite sure on things, just talk to him. Get to know a little about who he is and vice versa.

Anonymous wrote:
So basically a girls job is just to make sure he KNOWS she’s interested? The guy I am interested in may be a bit shy. I do not even know if he is interested. How can I know as I do not know him?

in a very narrow set of humans then yes, this can work. But don’t let any “rules” stop you from going after what you want.

Can you try the age old method of saying “hello”?

I could say hello,but I barely see this guy. When I do he’s with friends (none of whom I know) Awkward…

Pass him a note.

why do you like him then? Is he just some hollow vessel in which to stuff all you hopes and dreams? Get to know him a bit more. Oh right, thats teh point of dating. How to get a date? Right, I’m back on track again now.

Give him an oppertunity to say hello to you.

Get to know him? Well there we go again back to waiting for him to make the move :)

Wait.
How are you even interested if you know absolutely nothing about him?
Is it just me being very tired or does this not make complete sense?

Does any one know any signs of uninterest? Lol

I do know some things about him that I’ve heard from others.But I have never talked to him.

Anonymous wrote:
Get to know him? Well there we go again back to waiting for him to make the move :)

NOOOO ;-)

You can proactivly get to know him if you want, you aren’t in a jail cell waiting for visitors.

That is true, I am not in a jail cell good one :) The thing is If I am lucky I pass him only once or twice a week in the hallway…He is not even close by when we “pass”

This a mind trick that I seen work wonders over and over again. Imagine in your head that you were scoping him out for a sister, and you just wanted to see if he was good enough for her.

You would be a lot more bold, and more aware of his good and and not so good points.

A common tactic ( for girls older than Im guess you are ) is to send in a wing man to check him out. She find out if he’s single and not a tool, and she can do so with a clear head. Get a wing man!

Hmmm…a wing man…okay I can try that:)

But how would those questions help do you mean?

Anonymous wrote:
That is true, I am not in a jail cell good one :) The thing is If I am lucky I pass him only once or twice a week in the hallway…He is not even close by when we “pass”

let him go, he’s just a fantasy then. Look about for a decent guy closer to you that you actaully know something about and that you like.

Am I sounding like my mum? Wow.

Ok, so find out where Mr beautiful eats and bribe your way into a job there. Guys love to flirt with fodd providers ( it’s a weird freud thing ) and they are weakened when thinking of food.

Anonymous wrote:
But how would those questions help do you mean?

Huh? Well if he’s married, dull, or gay, then you might want to put your energy into something more fruitful.

No he’s single and not dull, infact he’s full of life :) What throws me off is that when I look at him his eyes quickly looks down…I am not quite sure if that is a sign of diss interest?

I think I need a wing man for in the future..

♥ tiffany! wrote:
I think I need a wing man for in the future..

And if it works out well, they get free drinks at the wedding…

Thanx guys I feel a bit wiser:)

are you full of life?

No I’m a boaring girl

I ask that, as I’ve noticed poeple want to date someone that has a quality they desire in their own lives. It works out well, but as a prelude, you could just start making your life more “full of life”, and I’m guessing this wouldn’t make you any less attractive to him ;-)

Thanks, I shalt try to make myself hyper,lol. (Any sugestion how) Yes I know you are right.

lol, not hyper, but just rolling in the direction you want.

What do you want more of in your life? If you were a millionare and had nothing holdin you back, what would you want to do?

Hmmm…I would go and do things that cost money! :) Shop,go to the beach,drive around EVERYWHERE…

LOL, girls :-)

So you want a popular rich man that has a car right?

“Girls don’t like boys, girls like cars and money.”

until 25, then they like good genes and houses.

Jeans, maybe…

ok, anon, that’s not helping…

I was saying that if you are interested in a guy you don’t know, but the first thing you say about him isn’t looks/popularity/caring/etc, but that hes is “full of life” then you might want to get someof that good stuff your self.

It will attract him, and even if it doesn’t, then at least you are more awesome.

Xeno Dragon wrote:
Jeans, maybe…

Been in a place where being white makes you a stud. And there are a fair number of women that only pay me attention because I am tall. As long as I don’t start talking, I’m fine :-)

What, just “come along”? You’re just waiting for the perfect guy to fall into your lap? Heh. Good luck with that.

sj wrote:
Okay, so do you really want to go out with some guy you don’t even know, find out that you might not like him after all, and move on to the next? I think that’s playing around too much. I know nobody’s “perfect”, but I’m waiting for the perfect match for me. It will come.

It’s different for everyone, but I think that finding out if you like a person is one of the main reason for first dates. If you can judge that without ever spending time one on one with someone, or you prefer to do the “getting to know you” in a less pressured environment, then I’m following your thinking. But how are you going to know this perfect match is really that if you don’t get to know them first?

No one says ou have to give a “piece of your heart” to anyone you date.

You don’t buy a car without shopping around.

You don’t buy a house without shopping around.

You don’t settle on a mate without shopping around.

Sorry, but jumping the first person you have any feelings for isn’t going to find you Mr. Right if you refused to date anyone up until that point. Of COURSE you’ll think it’s love, you’ve never felt romantic feelings for ANYONE before.

Anon, It sounds like when he looks away fast after noticing you staring, that he is shy. Being shy myself, I would encourage you to approach him. At least find excuses to talk to him, about anything. School policy, something about class, If he is shy, or even if you like his shirt or shoes tell him.

I’m the kind of person who is shy until I meet people, then you wont be able to shut me up. So if you like him enough, take it into your own hands.