Problem help: I’m incredibly lazy and self indulgent. - Help.com

Just make yourself do what you have to. Sometimes we all have to do stuff we don’t want to do, it’s life.

Oh I love you so much Neutra. You’re exactly right, that’s exactly what I have to do. But unfortunately I’m reckless and stubborn too.

Think about this, the sooner you get done with something you don’t want, the less you have to think about it.

Neutra, I know that makes perfect sense. However, I’m willing to let my curiousity get the best of me until I’m really up against the wall and forced into work in its most productive way.

Its possible that I won’t be strong enough to carry the load of life, but frequently I’m encouraged to believe that even if I fail at what I “want to do” I can at least succeed at what I “don’t want to to” which is arguably more important.

You will never get past a certain level of maturity if you don’t learn to be self sufficient. Try to focus less on yourself and more on others to help put your life in perspective.

The challenges that come in life, they would never come to us if we weren’t strong enough to get through them. I see that we get alot more from what we do, whether we pass at it or fail. When we do something we prove that we have the strength to do it and if we try and fail, we learn from where we failed at, to help if we encounter that situation again. What it is that you don’t want to do, you should try it, for if you just try and not even succeed, you still learn something.

Thats true. But what constitutes trying and not trying? Its a tough balance.

we try things and we sometimes fail, but we will never know if we will succeed or not if we don’t try, you don’t just want to sit around and waste life away while you could have spent the while accomplishing something that could help make something better(your life or someone else’s) or learning something that could give you more knowledge.

Neutra, thanks.

Life is a sort of progression of ignorance, both by me, and by others, and its easy to get washed in this sort of ‘non-aware’ world. I feel isolated, but at once whole, employed and unemployed, present and absent. My friends are close, and yet separated by physical distance or problems of language.

In this state I find myself anaesthetized, numb, and life becomes a progression of thought and philosophy, something considered, rather than lived.

But I do understand how you feel though, I use to be like that with my friends, we either couldn’t talk with each other the way I wanted or I couldn’t see them due to them living far away. But no body’s really alone, not in thought anyway, there is always someone out there that thinks similar to the way you do, even if they are not anywhere near you they are there somewhere feeling the same way you do.

ho hum. I think the thing is just to get to the end of the year and then simply move on and start a new pattern. Hope I’m not like this forever, really wish I could find a comfortable groove with someone else.

and I wish I wasn’t letting myself down.

If it makes you feel better, im sorta in a similar situation, of being stuck somewhere unable to move on. But I know it’s not going to last and soon I will finally be able to go, as will you. See sometimes it takes alittle longer for some people to move on to a better place in their lives, not because they are doing something wrong, but because they still have something to do in their current place, think real hard and see if there is something still left for you. If you still feel as if you are ready to move on, then don’t worry about it, like I said, sometimes it just takes alittle longer then some people for something to come and change their lives, but it does come.

I honestly believe that what I’m engaged in is basically a waste of time, and its not that its a waste to me, or to the people I’m doing it for, but simply put, a waste in the larger sense of the word.

I would like to act according to principled purposes, not whims and whimsical desires. I’m sure, for example, that I can find happiness without an inexhaustible supply of money.

I must try to change my philosphy, and then keep my actions consistent with that philosophy. In this case, the means to the end are worthy, but hte end is not, hence, the means come with great difficulty.

I must master the means. But how? And when? Hmmm…

The job of an editor is a hard one, and it is well paid, but it is misery. What would be better? Looking after ophans?

sigh of relief -= Yessss - sigh of relief - yes… that would be joy!! :)

No, not a waste, everything has some sort of reason no matter how big or small.
To help you feel better, I would suggest you take time out to just enjoy all the things that seem small or unimportant. Even if it’s just something simple as looking into the sky, just enjoy what the world has to offer you, don’t wait till something like alot of money to come to make yourself happy, be happy now while you still can.
Only you can decide the how and when, you will know when the time comes to awnser your questions.

To awnser your question, im not sure, I would go with the job you like more, having a job that pays well is good but if you don’t like it, just in it for the money, then it’s going to be a long week, if you like children then you can go with looking after ophans.

hmm.. I don’t know. The world revolves around those who can’t help themselves. I think that that is the right way, and I am taking time out now, even though its the most inappropriate time I could given the nature of the opportunity that are spread out before me…

That’s understandable, don’t worry about thinking of yourself during the holiday season. Everyday is special and people shouldn’t have to wait till one or two days during the holiday to let someone know they are special to them, anytime is good. Just take time out to decide what you really want, a good job, happiness, to help others, whatever you want.

Well, as usual, I would like to be left alone with my mind to improve it and simply study its behaviour forever. However, where would I start the process of reintegrating? These days my existence is purely a personal one, who shares it except those family on email tangents? I am cast adrift in the sea of life. What a big place, what a complex and threatening space. Who knows what way is the best way forward? We must stumble and fail to begin with, to find the hidden libations! The payoffs for following one’s will, however intuitive.

Yeah, it can be scary at times, especially if you don’t have anyone by yourside. But if we want to move forward, we have to start somewhere and the best place would be where we currently are.

I like to make noise and start a ruckus. I like to provoke people and play and converse and communicate! I like to laugh and run and cook and love and ..

I like People!

Thanks Neutra!
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no problem