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Its Thanksgiving tomorrow and Im dreading meeting my parents.

My sister just had a baby- shes an alcoholic, ex-druggie, and what I believe a sociopath too (a person with no conscious), shes had multiple personality issues and drug issues. Ive asked my mother to not bring up my sister and the new baby but she wont stop calling me, emailing me, and texting me about it. I very well understand my parents excitement but I only see this situation as another problem for them to solve for my sister. Im the type of person that cant just bite my tongue and to have to sit there tomorrow and be reminded of the deep set pain I have incurred from my relationship with my sister is very hard to do. Ive asked nicely and flat out told my parents I am not interested in being apart of the babies life and if that means not seeing them then so be it. They see it differently. Can I fake sick out of Thanksgiving even though its a pre-paid event? My family is being torn apart, my parents are my best friends but I feel I have no other choice but to diassociate from the family. Ive already pre-warned my mom that I will not attend christmas. I just wanted to vent to some outside sources. Obviously there is more to it, but when it comes down to it, the simple fact is that they all have lost my trust. Any comments are welcome.

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Sasha101 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (52 minutes after post)

Hi there, anything to do with drugs and alcoholism can tear apart a family hon, and cause huge voids. I suspect you parents by inviting you and your sister, are maybe trying to close the void and repair the relationship between you and your sister, do you think that’s so ?

Hi there, anything to do with drugs and alcoholism can tear apart a family hon, and cause huge voids. I suspect you parents by inviting you and your sister, are maybe trying to close the void and repair the relationship between you and your sister, do you think that's so ?

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Sasha101 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (54 minutes after post)

I think this is hard for you parents, because of course they love you both, they are overjoyed at the grandchild and want to draw you into the celebrations I think.

I think this is hard for you parents, because of course they love you both, they are overjoyed at the grandchild and want to draw you into the celebrations I think.

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Sasha101 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (56 minutes after post)

I do understand what you are feeling though, and I think it would be a happier time for you if your sisters circumstances were different.

I do understand what you are feeling though, and I think it would be a happier time for you if your sisters circumstances were different.

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Sasha101 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (59 minutes after post)

your* my R doesnt want to make it to the screen, sorry :-)

your* my R doesnt want to make it to the screen, sorry :-)

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Time Traveller 8 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (6 hours, 30 minutes after post)

It’s really not possible to drop your whole family just because of the baby. You’re the baby’s aunt and you can help that child a lot.

It's really not possible to drop your whole family just because of the baby. You're the baby's aunt and you can help that child a lot.

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Time Traveller 8 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (6 hours, 32 minutes after post)

I know it is like insult to injury but the child does exist you will love that baby.

I know it is like insult to injury but the child does exist you will love that baby.

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Miami, FL, US | 1 year ago (9 hours, 33 minutes after post)

I think your sister might be going through a lot of pain you being her sis you might be the only one who can help her through it. go with your family and if it’s a mess then convince your parents to send her to rehab. don’t abandon the kid. that kid may need you in the future.

I think your sister might be going through a lot of pain you being her sis you might be the only one who can help her through it. go with your family and if it's a mess then convince your parents to send her to rehab. don't abandon the kid. that kid may need you in the future.

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