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I’m afraid I might be too obsessed with my boyfriend.
I message him everyday and wait around for his messages and respond to them as soon as possible. I try to resist talking to him every single day, to let him have some space, but I can’t help it. I don’t like talking on the phone, so at least I’m not that time consuming for him. I also don’t try to hang out with him every single day; we’re pretty balanced with that. We never fight, luckily. I don’t remember when we last did.
Even aside from the constant messages, I’m afraid I’m too obsessed with him. He’s always on my mind, and sometimes I can’t even function and I just want to sit down and think about him. I worry I’m too dependent, like I won’t know what to do if he doesn’t want to be in a relationship. I don’t know how I’d react if we broke up. I normally never get obsessed. It’s odd for me. But I trust my boyfriend because he is a good man. He’s not the kind to abuse or exploit. He knows I’m obsessed with him, and I don’t think he minds, he is flattered by it. But should I learn to be stronger and less dependent? For my sake (if we break up) and saving him the burden of knowing how much I rely on him.
By the way, it’s been a year and I think I love him. We do get along very well. But sadly there’s a chance it won’t last… so I think I should prepare for it. I am still a rational thinker and have always been very confident; I don’t indulge in plans of what could happen in years between us. I don’t want to get my feelings tangled up in the end. Any advice?
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i just think your in love.x
i think its nice to think about him.Not all the time ,but i find it nice and make sure to give hime Space…
I’m in the same situation here. Sorry for being anonymous but my boyfriend has an account on this site.
I am the same. I am 42 he is 47 and we both have been divorced for over 5 years. I feel like a silly 17 year old. I can’t think of breaking up with him. I also am rational and independent about everything. I own my own house, I am a single mother of an 11 year old, I have a masters degree and a good steady job. It has been 15 months and I want him to move in. I don’t sleep through the night when he isn’t with me. Yes it is a state of mind but it feels much better with him then without him, and isn’t feeling good better?
Ok,were too obsessed-were happy!
I too am obsessed with mine. I feel worried like I will freak him out, but I also think he is flattered by it. Because, after all, who doesn’t like to know that they are needed?
I am also struggeling with an obsession with my hunni. We have lived together for a year and a half. We have a great time together. Just recently he moved out bcause of a lot of problems we have let come between us. I cant function. I have a hard time eating and sleeping. All I can do is obsess with him. I ant to call him 500 times and send him texts and I dont know what to do. He is moving back home but I told him give me a few weeks to get my head together so I can be strong. He says it is smothering and he doesnt like that. He tells me I am too controlling and I try to control ever aspect of his life, I look through his phone, even though I know he is not doing anything wrong. I am so insecure with myself. I just dont know what to do.
I know how you feel I am actually feeling the same way about my boyfriend
I feel the same way. I think I’m going psycho. We’ve been having a rocky few weeks, and I’m scared of losing him. If I’m not with him or talking to him, I just want to cry. I’m not usually like this, but I really love him. I’m so insecure, though. When he doesn’t call me back, my head spins and I just get depressed.
same here… i thought i was the only one with this problem lol. The thing is i overthink everything and I worry constantly… He’s all i think about. I’ve practially planned my schedule around his, i want him to be with me instead of his friends all the time. And when we are together it never feels like long enough. I’ve pratically lost all of my friends because i put off plans with them to be with him. He’s the only thing in my life I care about anymore… I text him all day… and i worry I’m annoying him or that im pushing him away and yet i just cant seem to stop myself. Im so depressed and lonely when he’s not around, which is a lot of the time… In the beginning of our relationship he was still in love with his ex… he admitted it and said he would take her back if she wanted him. just like that… It hurt a lot… he says he loves me now but I’ll always wonder… I don’t know what I should do, i cant seem to change how i feel or what I think. I have nightmares about him leaving me, and Im afraid he doesn’t really love me at all… Im even starting to wonder if i really love him or if its that i love the idea of not having to feel alone all the time…
I’m in the same boat as you. My bf hurt me so many times, but all I can do is think about him and figure out how to make things work between us. I so wish I wasn’t this way. How did it work out for you?
Dont think that you might break up…because there is a chance he could be the one..and all this thinking about breaking up and how to deal with it could be a waste of time.
But…i am the same..i only seem to be happy when i am with my boyfriend, when i am not with him, i think of him constantly and feel sad. I do think to myself how would i deal with it if we broke up..but he says things like he loves me and he always wants to be with me..so it makes me happier. We have been together 3 years now.
Just try to do things that make you happy, like keep yourself busy and you will be happier.
I am the same with my boyfriend until one day he wanted to break up with me and I was so upset I couldn’t breathe and literally my fingers turned blue. It felt like I had nothing, like it was a bad dream. I was left feeling like I lost my whole life. Luckily that same day after I was crushed everywhere he got back with me but now I feel like the trust I had for him I lost. Now he doesnt really call…and now I am forcing myself to stop thinking about him and always wanting to see him because now I dont trust our relationship and now I know it could literally end at anytime. Prepare yourself just incase.
i think we should all just try and focus on something else…. friends??? anyone? a good book, tv, movies anything!
dont start autumatically doubting your relationship if you think you are in love with him, hold on to that. it doesnt sound like your obsessed, it sounds like you are just a very devoted person, and if he doesnt mind, neither should you. Now if you are like 16 then you may have issues, because the younger you are, the less you are ready for forever with someone, so the best thing you could do is, tell him you need you arnt giving him the cold shoulder but pull away just a little in case it does end.
i know exactly how you feel, its not being obsessed your just devoted to him and to be honest i think our just in love with him its a good thing! :D
I understand! Ive been talking to this guy, it started off sending text messages, then a few dates, then I became obsessed with him! All I ever wanted to do was talk about him and be with him and text/call him all the time. First it was okay, then I ran him off, he started ignoring me :( He still cares about me, I just frekked him out too much in the begining and i think i pretty much ruined everything.
Im having the same issue too at the beginning of our relationship he tells me hes love me and wants to be with me forever and ever. Him and I both been in bad relationships in the past. Everyday I think about him and I’m always afraid he cheating on me with an other girl. I do ask him alot of questions like do you really love me and so on. I dont know what to do, I worry about him so much. I need help.
i love my boyfriend so much.. i mean we have been having a lot of up’s and downs though we sort it out in the end and get over him..
he goes to my school and he got suspended because he choked a guy for calling me names and saying things about our relationship.
so i’m lonely at school at the moment with my friends and man i’m so lost without with, people would call him my shadow cause we were always together.. i love him so much !!! i’m obsessed with him.. he always say i love you more and all these lovey
things and i really want him to mean it
i’m crazy about him and i want to spend my rest of my life with him !
love you boo boo 3
jeez…I guess I’m not the only one who’s ‘’suffering'’.. It feels good to know I’m not going crazy, since a lot of other people are going through the same situation.
I know exactly how you all feel … I am 16 and me and my boyffriend have been dating for 10 months ..we hangout everyday , I look through his phone and were like bestfriends , but when he makes plans with friends I get mad/sad .. And he has hurt me a lot in the past but the only problem right now in our relationship is me getting upset when he handouts with his friends . I can’t help but get mad…
Wow! Its not about he loving u back or you giving him his space, it’s about d way you love him, he might not. The key here is patience; and trying to control ones feeling to go overboard to show your love and affection and care etc. It is always hard for a woman to control feelings or urge. Even if it is as small as texting a “hi”. But girls/ woman do it constantly, which irritates or annoy a boy/ man as they do not think like a woman or let’s just say de r made differently! If u love him, if u r obsessed with him, let it be! But remember that u have ur own life, even if ur thoughtsr as stupid as “he is my life” remember he doesn’t think that! So wake up and start living ur life and love d guy be obsessed with him but have heaps of patience at the same time, if he wants to talk to you he will call! If he misses u he will text if he wants u to go out with him he will ask! Do pour ur heart for him, love him from bottom of ur Herat but do remember he has his own mind and ways to love you!!! You can not teach someone how to love! It’s something which cones from within. Keep loving! N girls tie your fingers cross ur fingers b4 u call him or SMS him! Think, think again! Again think…. N then take a step even if u r calling him or smsng him! Don’t call him 100 times a day just to say hi honey or baby. Don’t check up on him every now n then! He is fine! So get back to your life if he really love u he will come around. X. Ash.
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