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Is it Wrong to not enjoy Thanksgiving?

I used to like this holiday when I was little, not now, the awkwardness of dealing with family, especially when we don’t always get along, is not really that appealing to me.

Many in my family are the type where they have high expectations for the youth of the family. So it’s constant questions about “how’s college coming” “what career are you looking for” “when are you going to bring a nice girl home to meet us” etc. And when I don’t have an answer for any of those it makes me really want to avoid the event.

Maybe if there was more to offset that, like Halloween where you get to dress up and go to a party, but Thanksgiving is really just dinner. I don’t want to deal with all this drama just to eat slightly more than normal.

But then myself and everyone around me always makes me feel so guilty. Like you HAVE to go to Thanksgiving dinner, if you don’t it’s like skipping Church or a funeral or a wedding or Christmas.

Do you guys think it’s wrong to not want to deal with family on Thanksgiving?

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (9 minutes after post)

No biggie. I hate Christmas. http://help.com/post/119273-ive-made-…

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (14 minutes after post)

I don’t want to go but I am anyway. Strength and Honor! Just like in Gladiator.

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Baltimore, MD, US | 1 year ago (18 minutes after post)

Well I also have to deal with the added problem of having a large but separated family. Therefore there are multiple dinners being held and I have to choose which one to go to. And so there’s always one set of grandparents and aunts and uncles that are disappointed that I didn’t come. I hate making tough choices :/

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (50 minutes after post)

Well, the ones that you couldn’t go to at thanksgiving, but them first for the christmas holiday :)

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (55 minutes after post)

It’s your choice, you are your own person. We can pick our friends but not our family.
I’m with you Xeno, I also dislike Christmas

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (57 minutes after post)

Nope. Nothing wrong with not liking thanksgiving. I like the food…and the booze…and the good times. I just dont like when people act like dicks.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 11 minutes after post)

Christmas is nice when you have kids, it’s exciting again then! We don’t have thanksgiving but if you don’t want to go don’t go, I refuse to go to my various family christmas dinners now and just don’t listen if they try to make me feel guilty.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (3 hours, 28 minutes after post)

hi jana here.i don’t think it’s wrong to hate thanksgiving.i did alot when i was younger.(hate thanksgiving,christmas too)though over the years,i’ve learned,thanksgiving means more than i relised.i am now a grama of 5 boys,2-3years2-5years,1-7years.my so and i have 4 boys and two girls,all out of the house.yes,i hated being,poked and proded,when i was younger.now though,i relise,that it was our parents’ holiday.to show off our offspring.for 3years kevin,(so)and i have made this big turky dinner.we don’t even care for turky…sad thing is no one showed up.this year my youngest son is here,and kevins’ brother and sister are coming over.fun,not sure yet,loved,yes.when you are done with dinner,we do this,turn on a billy joel song,This is my life.it fits,afterward if you hear it.hopes and prayers,jana

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Austin, TX, US | 1 year ago (4 hours, 45 minutes after post)

I can totally understand the hatred of Thanksgiving, and all family related events. I hated my family until i moved out. Its so difficult to get along with them still, but when you have more than one family that you have to please it has to be REALLY tough. I say you just choose one family for each major holiday. Its really tough to choose i know, but its something you have to just suck up and do. As much as i can’t stand my family sometimes, its just really annoying, but you have to spend just those two days a year, which are holidays, to please them.

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Gloversville, NY, US | 1 year ago (11 hours after post)

personally, for the last few years, i have felt the exact same way as you… even today being thanksgiving, i did not do a turkey or anything… just a plain ol’ day for me…

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (14 hours, 49 minutes after post)

Not wrong at all!

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (1 day, 17 hours after post)

its not wrong. my cousin skipped thanksgiving this year. his family said he had an exam…but hes not in college. i dont know what the exam couldve been for. and who would give an exam on thanksgiving? i think its cause he was in JC for 7 years, never moving forward, and was too depressed at the fact that his younger cousins are all in college or heading there in a year or two. its not wrong. i can totally see why you wouldnt like it.

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