Love help: I need some advice for how to deal with this girl. - Help.com

say somtething

tell he man…what are you waiting for..

But just dont sound desperate and dont give in everything you have..U know like playing the game properly..:)

Do you want to spend the rest of your life wondering “what if…?” I don’t think so. I’m younger than you are, but I know that if I was lucky enough to actually find someone I loved, I wouldn’t let them go. If she’s out of highschool, then you’re good. Tell her how you feel…maybe write a letter or something. True love is hard to find nowadays and there are so many nonbelievers. Go prove them wrong.

get drunk with her,thatl do it.

lookinfortheanswe wrote:
i am afraid of the preprecussions it may have, with her older brother (my best friend since like, elementary school) and stuff like that. Someone has also said that attempting long term relationships could leave two people worse off then they were before…

Don’t listen to what people say. Casually bring it up with her brother and be like “what if I fell in love with your sister?” I really have no idea how you would get to that topic, but you’ll find a way. Are you 110% sure you love her?

the 1300 miles seems like a problem,dont senior hs get drunk then?sorry was only a suggestion

george197 wrote:
get drunk with her,thatl do it.

I wouldn’t do that if I were you…that’s sorta taking advantage of her, and plus it looks as if you’re not man enough to do that. People say a lot of crap when they’re drunk.

Just tell her. Otherwise you’ll always wonder about it!

tell her soon,else she will start liking you as a friend to much and maybe wont see you in that way.and i didnt mean get her smashed,just a couple of drinks to get you both chatting.

…but make sure you tell her in person so she knows ur not joking. Try and wait till the next time u see her…or hey, hop on a plane and go see her now? what’s stopping you romeo?

You should tell her. The distance thing can work out. Love is worth it!

1300 miles tho,if you did get it together would one of you be prepared to move eventually

lookinfortheanswe wrote:
george i know what you meant, its cool. Wouldnt flying there now seem desperate? Too much at once? I’m also a poor college kid… i have like 30 dollars to my name.

train? car? are you in love, or do you just really like her? and I disagree with george, you’re obviously not in the “friend zone” with her if she flirts with you. I think the only thing that is stopping her is her loyalty to her brother. She’s in the same boat as you kid.

You can do it!

you could try sending her a delberate accidental text message ,as if you were sending it to a pal but you sent it to her by accident,saying how you liked this girl called ***** but arent sure how to tell her.DONT text straight after saying sorry did i just text you by accident.wait and see what happens.

lookinfortheanswe wrote:
george also brings up a good point, if i wait too long it could ruin things….i know this may seem silly but i got to thinking this myself too the other day, watching a show on tv, the plot fo the episode involved how one of the guys never made a move on this chick even when she was throiwing herself at him and it didnt end well, this got me thinking and it worried me, it slipped my mind but george makes me remember….this is going to be so hard to do, im so nervous/shy

haha, alright, do what you want to, but I talk from experience…you don’t just forget these feelings (unless it’s not really “love”)…forty years ago, my dad was in love with this girl and she was in love with him, but he never told her. To this very day, he still thinks about her.

lookinfortheanswe wrote:
singer thats a really good point, i wonder if she IS in thre same boat… god, ive never been able to tell a girl anything like this before, this keeps looking like such a harder thing to say…

You could always take the easy way out and write her a letter…

lookinfortheanswe wrote:
singer thats a really good point, i wonder if she IS in thre same boat… god, ive never been able to tell a girl anything like this before, this keeps looking like such a harder thing to say…

Another option: ACTIONS speak louder than words…maybe if you see her, you wont have to TELL her anything…

i bet you any money she feels the same way,else you wouldnt have it so bad for her.

lookinfortheanswe wrote:
omg i am so afraid to end up like ur dad. like…wow i fear that big time, i dont want to dread this my whole life….i would kill myself. Actions… christmas is coming up soon….maybe i can DO somthing…

Make sure you do it in person. Trust me on this. If you go over to their house for a party or something, just tell her you need to talk to her really quickly alone…and then (a)tell her (b) ask her how she feels (c)just do something to let her know how you feel
**make sure she doesn’t have a boyfriend…

lookinfortheanswe wrote:
the second part of my problem is that im the shyest guy ever….i have no idea even what to say or how toi say it witout saying it desperatley or saying too much…

don’t worry, just be yourself and you’ll be fine.

alright, well I’m going to go sleep…sweet dreams, and I hope you realize how important it is for you to tell her how you feel the next time you see her.

“A kiss is a lovely trick, designed by nature, to stop words when speech becomes superfluous.”
–Ingrid Bergmen

Just tell her how you feel. If she was meant for you then you will find a way to overcome the obstacles eg. distance. Just give it a try. :D

lookinfortheanswe wrote:
hmmm i wish distance wasnt such an object… does anyb ody have any advice for how to deal with it? or should i start a new thread…

If you both commit, then you’ll be fine. It depends on the peopole…and plus with webcams and stuff like that you’ll be fine