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Perhaps you need to redefine what you consider “fun” and change your expectations of what fun would be. Then you may find yourself enjoying more situations, even spending some time alone. Do you have any hobbies or interests you could begin to spend more time on? Is there a friend out there that would be thrilled to hear from you? What about family that you haven’t seen in a while?

I don’t think so, no hobbies and no lost friends that would care about me and my family all suck, I’m so down at the moment, have been for ages, just don’t know what to do anymore apart from cry and cry and cry

Set small goals for yourself like getting out of the house and going for a walk, reading a book, doing a random act of kindness…all things that could help you out of a rut. :)

I’m afraid by sitting alone and dwelling you are only going to continue to feel down.

I’ve been there. It was 3 years ago when I was 17. I thought that my friends were not there for me but when I think back now, the fact is, I am the one who is holding back for some reasons I don’t know. I think at that time, my self-esteem is very low and that I am not cool enough to hang with them but now, I’m happy with the way I am and I have a friend who will call me at any time and I can call her at any time. I will have to call them and ask what’s the plan so that I know and I can go out with them. Don’t expect people to call you. You will have to make the move!

I have been all day and they just don’t want to know and it’s my fault because I distanced myself from them when I met my boyfriend and I don’t blame them really because I have been guilty of the same over the last few months but now he is acting up and I have realise what a fool I was to abbandon my friends for a guy and I don’t know how to make it up to them. If they needed me tho like I needthem now man I would drop everything

miss_enigma I know that dewelling on it will feel down, it’s far to dark and scary to be walking by myself tonight, I have seen all my films a dozen times and read my books even more, oh I am in an mess of my own making right now !

Try and confront your friends and tell them that you’re sorry because that’s what you feel right now. If they are a good friend, they’ll understand.

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miss_enigma I know that dewelling on it will feel down, it’s far to dark and scary to be walking by myself tonight, I have seen all my films a dozen times and read my books even more, oh I am in an mess of my own making right now !

Rearrange your furniture and look at is as a new start to your new life where you will use the lessons you’ve learned the hard way. You can always begin again. Think of ways to make new friends or be honest with the old ones and offer them an apology. If they are friends worth having they will realize that we all make mistakes. Begin anew this very minute. Everything happens for a reason and we all mess up in order to learn and grow.

The most wonderfult hing happened. My beat friend. The one I tried to cll all day. She called me asking what I was up to. Told her not much and she invited me round. We had the most wonderful night. Felt just like the olod times. I will never ever neglect her again. Thanks guys for your advice

Told ya!

I didn’t even need to apologise or explain at all she just is my best friend nothing like mamma mia to bring the girls together. I will never put anyone above her again she is a wonderful friend

That’s what you should do from now. Friends comes first before boyfriend.

I love my girl friends so much and I’m very thankful that I have them!! :D It feels good to have someone there for you right? To know that you are not alone!!

Cakes;-) wrote:
I didn’t even need to apologise or explain at all she just is my best friend nothing like mamma mia to bring the girls together. I will never put anyone above her again she is a wonderful friend

I’m so glad! Wonderful news, you made my morning and I’m so happy to hear that your evening was enjoyed. Yay!