friends help: Had my first gay dance just a few hours ago! - Help.com

chunkymove
offline Verified (1 year, 2 months) Visit chunkymove's shoutbox
An Unknown Location

Had my first gay dance just a few hours ago!

I not at all comfortable yet, but I had such a great night. Sure I get in the mosh pit at concerts, and I can salsa with the ladies, but met a guy who had outrageously interesting clothes, was lead singer in a musical production and was happy and genuine and personable. We were with two female mutual friends, who were also in the production, and we danced down the street singing along to fame, and G & S.

Now, I’m still waaaay not comfortable with it, but why the hell do I know all the words, and moves, and have never had a chance to use them? I felt free, real, and happy. I have no interest in physical, but just want to be around him and people like him.

This is soooo weird. I have worked in concreting, I play basketball, I can fix a car, but I really am just not a bloke and never have been.

It strange, I never thought I was gay, as I was never attracted to men, but it seems that I’m not attracted to straight men, which is a plus I guess. There were never any openly gay people around until I met my ex-girlfriend, who I cared about deeply and nurtured and protected for many years, but I never wanted to marry. No gay men around, combined with fear of stoning, plus monogamy. Being human is so freaking bent sometimes.

I can’t believe I am writing this. I am not gay, don’t be stupid. Guys are gross. I am just writing fiction as I am bored, yeah, that’s it LOL

This open post was written 11 months, 2 weeks ago | V/U/S: 72, 18, 3 | Edit Post | Leave a reply | Report Post


Reciprocity (0) Reciprocation Failure -- The poster has NOT helped anyone else yet!

Since writing this post chunkymove may have helped people, but has not within the last 4 days. chunkymove is a verified member, has been around for 1 year, 2 months and has 74 posts and 4,923 replies to their name.

Post Tags (10)

Replies (18)

Where were you?

Click and drag to move the map around. FAQ: How we place people on this map »
You can also watch events on Help.com as they happen
Mouse over the map for 2 seconds to see an expanded, interactive view

¡Nellie.Skywalker! offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
Washington, DC, US | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (15 minutes after post)

Huh.

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
chunkymove offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 19 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 8 minutes after post)

¡Nellie.Skywalker! wrote:
Huh.

bluh!

It’s just a rant, no question asked. Just getting comfortable with reality vs the make believe I had to do for too long.

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators

chunkymove edited this post 11 months, 2 weeks ago. Read the previous text »

Had my first gay dance just a few hours ago!

I not at all comfortable yet, but I had such a great night. Sure I get in the mosh pit at concerts, and I can salsa with the ladies, but met a guy who had outrageously interesting clothes, was lead singer in a musical production and was happy and genuine and personable. We were with two female mutual friends, who were also in the production, and we danced down the street singing along to fame, and G & S.

Now, I’m still waaaay not comfortable with it, but why the hell do I know all the words, and moves, and have never had a chance to use them? I felt free, real, and happy. I have no interest in sex, but just want to be around him and people like him.

This is soooo weird. I have worked in concreting, I play basketball, I can fix a car, but I really am just not a bloke and never have been.

It strange, I never thought I was gay, as I was never attracted to men, but it seems that I’m not attracted to straight men, which is a plus I guess. There were never any openly gay people around until I met my ex-girlfriend, who I cared about deeply and nurtured and protected for many years, but I never wanted to marry. No gay men around, combined with fear of stoning, plus monogamy. Being human is so freaking bent sometimes.

I can’t believe I am writing this. I am not gay, don’t be stupid. Guys are gross. I am just writing fiction as I am bored, yeah, that’s it LOL

littlenick online Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 149 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 36 minutes after post)

I had my first “happy” dance just one minute ago.

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
chunkymove offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 19 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 42 minutes after post)

littlenick wrote:
I had my first “happy” dance just one minute ago.

happy dance? How’s go for you? anything like …
http://au.youtube.com/watch?v=bNF_P28…

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
littlenick online Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 149 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 45 minutes after post)

Exactly!

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
dimmingstar1376 offline Verified User (12 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (9 hours, 24 minutes after post)

if your gay or homosexual or bisexual it truely is okay the worst thing you can do is torture yourself and ignore your affections. you say what you wrote is fiction but they way you say it sounds to me like you havent accepted it yet. seems like denial it happens. if it helps this might just be temporary but do your best you’ll only be hurting yourself so just think about it you’ll discover your true path of feeling just let time pass

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
dimmingstar1376 offline Verified User (12 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (9 hours, 25 minutes after post)

sorry if that didn’t make sense.

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
chunkymove offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 19 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (23 hours, 41 minutes after post)

dimmingstar1376 wrote:
sorry if that didn’t make sense.

Thanks dim, yeah that “fiction” thing was a joke, but it expressed how I feel.

You say the worst thing you can do ignore your affections, and this seems so right, but it’s not always so simple when you are younger and dependent on an enviroment that doesn’t allow it.

I’m not gay, I’m bi, as I believe everyone is to point. I use to over there at the 100% straight mark, but I am probably at about the 80% straight mark. But jsut now, I feel like that 20% has got some catching up and expressing to do. Part of it is just say “f*** you” to the voices in my head that tell me to not be me as its not safe. It is safe now, so today I hired singing in the rain and bought some more fitting colourful cloths. Huarrah for me out of the box. I’m not “out of the closet”, I’m just not in anyones box ;-)

Decided I didn’t care for labels,and was just goign to do what ever the **** I wanted and fall for the trap of enjoying my life.

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
¡Nellie.Skywalker! offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
Washington, DC, US | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (1 day after post)

Oh, I see. I thought you were mocking homosexuality. Well this is an interesting predicament you’re in….have fun with it!

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
chunkymove offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 19 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (1 day after post)

¡Nellie.Skywalker! wrote:
Oh, I see. I thought you were mocking homosexuality. Well this is an interesting predicament you’re in….have fun with it!

mocking homosexuality? Hella no :-)

Interesting… yeah ,that’s a good viewpoint.

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
littlenick online Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 149 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (1 day after post)

I’m doing another “happy” dance right now!

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
¡Nellie.Skywalker! offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
Washington, DC, US | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (1 day after post)

chunkymove wrote:

¡Nellie.Skywalker! wrote:
Oh, I see. I thought you were mocking homosexuality. Well this is an interesting predicament you’re in….have fun with it!

mocking homosexuality? Hella no :-)

Interesting… yeah ,that’s a good viewpoint.

Lol, I couldn’t think of a better word. But seriously though, I’m sorry that you are so conflicted! I’ll be cheering for that other 20% side of you.
:D

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
chunkymove offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 19 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (1 day, 1 hour after post)

thanks. I’m not feeling conflicted anymore. I went out dancing tonight with my best mate of 13 years, and it was absolutely no different. He’s a big dutch lad and I’ve never felt the slightest sexual attraction to him. He got a new girlfriend ,and we went to new art cafe that is losing money and decided to get some decks in and play soul music. I was worried that dacing with musical loving, outragerously dressed gay man would change anything. It hasn’t and now I embrase the wisdom I once feared…

No one cares :-)

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
chunkymove offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 19 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (1 day, 1 hour after post)

littlenick wrote:
I’m doing another “happy” dance right now!

A genuine LOL. Was suprised as its so quiet here.

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
dimmingstar1376 offline Verified User (12 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (2 days, 10 hours after post)

happy for you =]

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
chunkymove offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 19 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (2 days, 22 hours after post)

dimmingstar1376 wrote:
happy for you =]

Thanks dimm,

It’s strange, what felt scary taboo only two days ago, now feels so normal that I forgot what the post was about.

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
dimmingstar1376 offline Verified User (12 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (3 days, 7 hours after post)

enjoy your new style and keeping to being you it truely is the best and the best you

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators

Invite Others to Help

A logged in and verified Help.com member has the ability to setup a Friends List and invite others to help with posts.