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He’s a loser, Leave.

I think as long as you keep on enabling him and not let him take responsibility for his actions he is never going to mature! And, as long as you are willing to let him live off you, he will never change. Love has nothing to do with it. Once you figure out that his charm or whatever you want to call it runs out, you will try to get your money back for all the financial help you have given him and he will you to take a hike and you will be thoroughly disapointed and heartbroken. Good luck to you if you stay with him.

omg…he sounds like one of those moocher guys …u really need to dump him …he doesnt help even though your helping him more than you really need to…thats not right the relationship should involve both of you not just one person…

You have to show him tough love or show him the door so can leave. Good luck!

My sister is living with one of these guys and I have to wait till he breaks her heart before I can say “see?” cause she just thinks “I don’t know him and I don’t want her to be happy” blah blah blah. I’m trying to help and she doesn’t see cause she “loves him”.

Moooooooch!

Another thing is I will be homeless on Dec. 1st

because I do not have enough money after paying his fine to pay for a new place to live

then he’s definitely a loser. If he loved you he wouldn’t let you be homeless.

My roommate’s boyfriend stay with her but i have a question, if she stayed with him some of last yr and during the summer is he a mooch? She also asked him if he could pay the rent for next month and he said yes. So is he a mooch or a good boyfriend? Because thats her excuse all the time. Me and my other roommates didnt want him to LIVE with us but she said all that and that she could do whatever because she pays rent here too

well there is a sucker born every minute .Get it? Good song “and he is using you”…

best thing you can do for him is leave. Really, looking back in a few years, he will thankyou, or he is an even bigger loser than the people here are saying.

If you love him, then ask if you love yourself too? If he loves you, then is he acting like it? Can you see love surviving in your relationship? Imagine if you hadkids with him.

If he was sick or something, but DUI? Give him a last chance if you want, but I’d say it would be along the lines of him saying “this is how I’m going to pay you back and stop being a gimp”

He is also sick.. he has a genetic disease… but that is no excuse… I am just losing all hope right now… I’m stuck in a position right now that I feel like I am up against a wall. No place to go.

No i dont feel like he shows me the love… he talks to his ex alot and last night I found a text from her that said “WOW that brought back the first time” but he had deleted what he said to her… and another thing I pay for his cell phone!

Loser loser loser loser loser loser loser loser loser loser loser loser loser
Get outta there!! run!
That clear enough?

Oh no sweety you need to leave this man asap, seriously. He has lost all respect for you in my eyes. If he miss her then he need to take his a** to her so she can take care of him. You are not his mom therefor you do not need to be taking care of no man

I tried to talk to him about it and he just laughs and shrugs it off.

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I tried to talk to him about it and he just laughs and shrugs it off.

you need a wing man to help you escape, as that’s realy what it is - escape. Sorry to hear your in that spot.

wingman = friend to help you manuvere out of dangerouse situation. Friend’s shoulder to cry on is good to, but right now you need a wing man.

that is about it… someone to help me get away…

you ok with the idea of leaving?
You will want an exit stratergy, as leaches don’t like to let go of a free lunch.
( I’m sure he has his positive lovely side too, or you wouldn’t have gone out with him, but he needs some time alone to heal from the leach-ness)

I would have been gone a long time. But some people don’t listen to me. They just think that bad people can change and things are going to get better.

Littlenick… I’m sorry I didnt leave ok! Way to rub it in my face :( Especially at a time like this! THANK YOU!

I don’t think he was trying to be mean. It didn’t sound like you had decided to leave, and he was just putting in his advice about the way to roll from here.

How you feeling? Got to be a few emotions churning away there.