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I think you just like to see other people happy that is why you give off those positive and energetic posts. There is nothing wrong with that. What is wrong is that you cut yourself hoping to end your life. I am sad for you! Do I know you? Have I annoyed you lately?

jjlove wrote:
That is very sad. Wanna talk about it? …You sound young, but let me assure you, life does get better and is worth living!!

I dont even know where to start…

littlenick wrote:
I think you just like to see other people happy that is why you give off those positive and energetic posts. There is nothing wrong with that. What is wrong is that you cut yourself hoping to end your life. I am sad for you! Do I know you? Have I annoyed you lately?

:) I don’t think so…I don’t get annoyed that easily anyway
Theres a lot of things that make me want to do it. I guess thats the usual thing tho huh?

People on here won’t judge you, we want to help. You just need to give us a chance.

It all started with a big bang, then the black hole started forming…….Not me? Oh, sorry!

Go ahead anon!

Its hard to know where the beginning is. I’m just so tired of pretending to be something I’m not so I don’t hurt anyone. I end up hurting them anyway. The people I love the most…I always hurt them. I try to help and nothing I do matters. I make things worse everytime. Even on here. I try to help them but I guess I’m too ****** up to anymore. *sigh*

littlenick wrote:
It all started with a big bang, then the black hole started forming…….Not me? Oh, sorry!Go ahead anon!

:)

If you’re not helping, let us help you!

IDK even how you can. Everything just hurts soooooooo bad. I can’t shake it. Its like my insides are ripping open! Seriously, I just can’t deal!

I’m sure that’s not true. I’m sure that you help people on here and people at home. Maybe you’re just not giving yourself enough credit.

bookworm16 wrote:
I’m sure that’s not true. I’m sure that you help people on here and people at home. Maybe you’re just not giving yourself enough credit.

I dunno…I’m pretty sure I can’t help anyone anymore. THings have just gotten out of control and I can’t seem to tame it. How can you save someone when it’s themselves that is the enemy?!

You talk to us and we help. If things have gotten out of control we give you ideas to gain control again, to sort things out. You might need saving, but all you need is guiding in the right direction.

The first step is telling people whats wrong. so tell your story.
its pointless just saying how sad you are if you aren’t telling us why :/

EoinStidz wrote:
The first step is telling people whats wrong. so tell your story.its pointless just saying how sad you are if you aren’t telling us why :/

Theres a lot of stuff wrong with me. I can’t deal with my family anymore they are way to violent. I try to help them get along but they wont let me. They just push me aside and say I make thing worse. Which I guess I do. Eveyone in my life uses me I know they do. I let them because I’m just that patetic. I have no direction becasue alls I want to do is end my life. I can’t seem to just go with the flow like I use to. I want someone to tell me they love me. To actually mean it when they say it not just something they say at the end of a conversation. To have my someone to talk to. To stop grieving over the people I’ve lost that meant the world to me. They were my entire world and I will never find anyone that comes close to them! No one understands what this means…sorry I’m just all over the place right now.

I have scars all over me and they remind me of how it hurts. I have to do it to myself before someone else does it to me again. ahhhh why am I like this? I’m sorry to bother everyone.

I’m sorry for the people you have lost and the way your family are treating you. You’re not pathetic. You’ve been told these things so many times that it’s easier to just let them pass and carry on. That does not make you pathetic.

I understand about having to hurt yourself before others do. I really do understand. I won’t pretend it’s easy to stop, because it is not. You’re like this because you have not found or been taught better ways to cope. But that will come with time, like everything else in life.

Nono its fine. And I know its really hard to find hope when you dont know what youre supposed to be looking for, but you just have to believe that there are always people out there that can help. There is always going to be someone out there who will love you, you just have to kind of let it happen and maintain hope. When you lose people its painful and it feels like there is nobody whos ever going to replace them, but it isn’t the exact person you need a replica of, its the place in your heart that neds filling, which could happen at any moment, you just have to be patient. As for injuring yourself, it really helps to just step back and examine it. The fact is that most people who do it are drawn to it because self-mutilation and suicide has been romanticized to an almost indulgent place in our society. It sucks to think about, but self-harm isn’t a way of punishing yourself, its a way of reaching out to other, and there are much more effective ways of doing that. I know its frustrating but when you really think about it, its just completely silly.

I know you think it’s silly but its something that helps a great deal! And what if I don’t have time to wait! I can’t hold out much longer!….I’m sorry.

I don’t think it’s silly, and I’m sure that no one else here does either. It is a release. Yes you CAN hold out, just stay and talk to us. Keep your hands and your mind busy.

Its not that i think its silly. If you think about it, is it really helping you at all or is it just prolonging and perpetuating your problems? Harming yourself isn’t helpful, talking to people and sorting out your problems is. thats why we have therapists and not some sort of torture and mutilation clincs.
And why don’t oyu have time to wait? TIme is all you need! Time is what will help you feel better and time is what you need to start new relationships and get away from the damaging ones youre already in. Maybe “holding out” isnt what you need to be doing.
Ttry talkign to new people, maybe getting a gym membership or start regularly exercizing, which is proven to help. Itll make you feel good about yourself, and you can start new relationships at the gym without even realizing it.

Thanks guys I hope your right.:/

I don’t think I can wait anymore. It hurts too much. That probalby doesn’t make sence but if I quit cutting myself then I seriously don’t think I can go on anymore. I appreciate all of you guys. Your kind words are refreshing! I just don’t think I’m the kind of person yall are talking about…I wish I were. I don’t mean to disappoint you:(

Yes, you can wait. Talk to us instead of hurting yourself. I know how it feels to want to cut, but you need to just wait it out. You are the kind of person we are talking about … you just don’t believe it at the minute.

I’m soooooooooooooooooooooooo tired of waiting. Thats what I always have to do. When i wait for things to happen things usually end up more messed up then before. I found it’s better to just do things when the moment hits. IDK….

Yes, it is sometimes better to do things when the moment hits, but not this!

I dunno….what do I do?

What do you want to do? Now and in the future?

I don’t know. Thats a hard question. I don’t really have a plan. Seriously I don’t even want to think about it I just want to first of all stop hurting and stop thinking about suicide all the time

Stop waiting! YOu said you can’t wait any long. stop waiting!
take actiona and control of your life
work on new relationships because the oens you ahve sound liek theyre not helping.
Nobody is telling you to wait, and every time somebody makes a sugegstion you just put aup a barrier.
stop letting your sadness speak for you ad come out of your shell
As much as somebody can get addicted to love, they can get addicted to pain and suffering
If you really wanted to kill yourself, you probably would have already, but we both knwo its not what you want to do.
Hope is always goign to be present in everyone in some form or another, and youre no exception.

Ok, well focus on that. Focus on not hurting yourself for now. Have you ever seen a counsellor or therapist?

Your right I probalby would have… I still think about it all the time tho. I can’t speak positive I’m sorry. I just can’t see things the way you guys do anymore. I don’t mean to be guarded an blocked but thats the way I feel. Its like when peopel are possitve about something and get a little perterbed when someone else says something negative. Same thing only opposite, ya know?

bookworm16 wrote:
Ok, well focus on that. Focus on not hurting yourself for now. Have you ever seen a counsellor or therapist?

No I haven’t. I haven’t even told anyone else about this until this until this post but none of my friends or family know about it. I don’t want to hurt them.

No, I’m like you, I’m negative!

It’s admirable that you don’t want to hurt them, but you need to draw a line somewhere! You need to talk to somebody … get help.

If I went through with it they would only hurt for awhile. If I just told them whats going on then it would be a long drawn out process………I’m afraid to talk with them about this…arg.;(

You need to recognize that its not you speaking, it the sad little voice in your head overriding who you really are. And we can help that. You don’t have to tell your parents, but maybe set up ana ppointment with your family doctor. you dont have to tell them any specifics, just how your feeling and you will most likely get a low-risk prescription like Prozac.
it seems like it cant be helped but its all chemical, and drugs liek that can really help you out. THere are hardly any side effects worth mentioning and its very effective.

No, they would hurt for the rest of their lives. They would rather that you talked to them about it than one day find you dead.

jjlove wrote:
“Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass… It’s about learning how to dance in the rain.”

I like that….;D

Thats a really cool story. That did help some! Thanks:)
I’ll try to be positve. Sometimes I feel like alls I can do is be negative because it seems like nothing will get better. Who knows what tomorrow will be like. You guys are right I do need to tell someone about this but I don’t know how to. Its not that I don’t really want to it that I literaly don’t know what to say. I guess I’m afraid of the awkwardness of it all. I don’t mean to be like this. i’d like for it to stop actually. I”m sorry I’m bombarding yall with this negativity too. It’s not fair taht I am. :/

Thanks for sharing that story!:)

It’s ok to be negative … just sometimes, for example me, people take it a step too far and get themselves in too deep. Just take a step back and think, what would I say to someone else who was in this situation?

bookworm16 wrote:
It’s ok to be negative … just sometimes, for example me, people take it a step too far and get themselves in too deep. Just take a step back and think, what would I say to someone else who was in this situation?

Your right if it were my sister saying somehting like this I would be devistated if she didnt tell me.

jjlove wrote:
Glad you liked the story… Being positive isn’t easy all the time, but it can be done. You absolutely HAVE to focus on the good things in the world and in your life, and the places you can go if you really want to. It really IS entirely up to you. You CAN do this!

I really did like it. I’ll try to be positve but sometimes it is like I’m in too deep to get out. I do need help. Thanks for doing just that…helping me. I’ll try to tell someone close to me about this.I’m jsut super afraid to and nervous. probably more nervous then anything hahah

It is scary, but telling someone in the first place is the hardest bit. After that it gets easier. I promise.

Do I tell them everything or should I wait and just gradulally tell them. I don’t want to overwhelm anyone with this ya know?

It depends … what would be better for YOU, not anybody else?

I dunno probably gradually but then again to get everythng out in the open all at once would mean less time that I have to worry when to tell someone……Maybe I can just tlak to my sister about this and work my way from there…i dunno

Thanks for all your guys help. I have to go now tho THANKS FOR EVERYTHING! You guys made me feel a little better:)

Ok, if you have any problems, you know where to find us! Good luck! x