Love help: I want my live in boyfriend to move out!

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I want my live in boyfriend to move out!

We’v been together for 8 months; and i dont love him..how do i tell him to leave?

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (1 minute after post)

Did you break up with him yet?

Anonymous #
1 year ago (1 hour, 33 minutes after post)

If you don’t love him why did you allow him to move in?

The best thing you can do is be straight with him. Don’t jerk him around. Women always have the upper hand in the relationship anyway.

PaDLe 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (3 hours, 59 minutes after post)

I dump my boyfriend of 4 years. Just like that. I told him that I don’t feel the sparks between us anymore. Get in control of things. Help him to find a place to stay if you must.

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Anonymous #
1 year ago (5 hours, 3 minutes after post)

LOL. Women are ICE cold. I gotta start breaking some hearts. You women are brutal.

PaDLe 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (5 hours, 5 minutes after post)

Well, if I have to choose between making him happy and making me happy, I will choose me. A relationship based on sympathy is pointless. It’s not that we want to do it but we have to!

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Anonymous #
1 year ago (5 hours, 12 minutes after post)

Thats bullsh*t. Women have no empathy. Forget sympathy. Like men have no feelings. They’re just sh*tkickers with pricks right?

I’ll take pleasure in the next heart I break. I have no remorse for you women.

PaDLe 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (5 hours, 15 minutes after post)

Anonymous wrote:
Thats bullsh*t. Women have no empathy. Forget sympathy. Like men have no feelings. They’re just sh*tkickers with pricks right?

I’ll take pleasure in the next heart I break. I have no remorse for you women.

Good luck on that.

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chev.jame 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (6 hours, 43 minutes after post)

A little-known statistical fact: couples who live together before marrying have a higher risk of divorce than those who did not cohabit. In other words, think long and hard before moving in with a guy.

Oh, as for breaking hearts, I hope you will treat him as you would want to be treated. I do hope you realize that telling him, “I don’t love you and I want you to leave,” is something that is going to hurt. And it’s really kind of bad if you haven’t told him that you were growing unsatisfied in the relationship . . . and you hit him with a breakup right out of the blue.

Karma is a very real phenomenon. If you treat someone badly, it will soon be YOUR turn in the “barrel.”

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (3 weeks, 2 days after post)

I also had told my boyfriend to move out. We’ve been together for two and half years. We never fight. About one year ago, I told him how it upsets me that he comes home 11p to midnight M-Th and yet he did nothing about it. I approached the topic Wed.he then slept on the couch, again on Thurs and again slept on the couch his choice. Friday came and he did not call me till 10p, I returned his call at midnight only to find that he was resistant to tell of his plans to go over his sleezy friend’s home. Yes, he has a close friendship with a man who was having an affair for two years behind his wife’s back of 21yrs. My thoughts are birds of a feather flock together. He has his own jewelry store and if business was hurting then why not talk to me, instead, he tells me how busy he is. Also two weeks before going out of town to visit my family and after several requests for a final answer to rather or not he is going with me, he cancels and tells me he wanted to work black friday all along. Then why lead me on… I feel that his sleezy friend who is now divorced and living with his ho girlfriend has set him up with someone else. Perhaps he was using me for cheap rent…unsure.. I told him to go live with his ho friends and told him his clothes will be in bags outside the door. I felt bad the way I reacted, however, he knows my nerves are shot, with my new diagnoses of needing a total hysterectomy and having cancer cells. He pushed me to the limit and I found him to be selfish. He is his own boss, and could have left earlier for work in order to get home earlier, but he chose not to.. So I chose to have him live his new life without me.. Am I losing my mind? He is under the impression that I had my surgery already, and sent me a get well card, and signed without Love. I am very confused.. I wonder if he sent this card for his benefit to make himself feel good that he totally abandoned me in most needful time of support. Even after I apologized he has not communicated except for the stupid card.

I also had told my boyfriend to move out. We've been together for two and half years. We never fight. About one year ago, I told him how it upsets me that he comes home 11p to midnight M-Th and yet he did nothing about it. I approached the topic Wed.he then slept on the couch, again on Thurs and again slept on the couch his choice. Friday came and he did not call me till 10p, I returned his call at midnight only to find that he was resistant to tell of his plans to go over his sleezy friend's home. Yes, he has a close friendship with a man who was having an affair for two years behind his wife's back of 21yrs. My thoughts are birds of a feather flock together. He has his own jewelry store and if business was hurting then why not talk to me, instead, he tells me how busy he is. Also two weeks before going out of town to visit my family and after several requests for a final answer to rather or not he is going with me, he cancels and tells me he wanted to work black friday all along. Then why lead me on... I feel that his sleezy friend who is now divorced and living with his ho girlfriend has set him up with someone else. Perhaps he was using me for cheap rent...unsure.. I told him to go live with his ho friends and told him his clothes will be in bags outside the door. I felt bad the way I reacted, however, he knows my nerves are shot, with my new diagnoses of needing a total hysterectomy and having cancer cells. He pushed me to the limit and I found him to be selfish. He is his own boss, and could have left earlier for work in order to get home earlier, but he chose not to.. So I chose to have him live his new life without me.. Am I losing my mind? He is under the impression that I had my surgery already, and sent me a get well card, and signed without Love. I am very confused.. I wonder if he sent this card for his benefit to make himself feel good that he totally abandoned me in most needful time of support. Even after I apologized he has not communicated except for the stupid card.

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