Love help: My fiance of 3 yrs dumped me to go to the air force because he says he needs to find himself (lame i know). - Help.com

Let him go and move on! He is not coming back. The Air Force will move him around the country if not around the world. Time for another relationship with somebody else. Tell him to have a good life and you have a good life yourself without him.

i agree change happens and most times change is good. you can be freinds but you probs wont see im for a long time (unless you keep in very good contact)so id say move on…theres planty more fish in the sea

maybe try to get him to communicate his feelings more. when you have good communications it sometimes helps. i recently hent through this, when he holds back his opinion on your choices in life, he isnt telling you that your doing something that is going to change his feelings in your relationship. and if you and him talk about something together try to focus on thier wants and needs too, it makes them feel good to know you show interest in thier thoughts and they open up more to talking about thier feelings.

OK, you left him to work in another city, and YOU, in effect said, “It’s OK to put the relationship behind an opportunity.” If you didn’t think that was going to have an impact on your relationship, you weren’t thinking. So now he feels totally justified in doing it. Whether you realize it or not, he has engineered a kind of “payback” for you.

If I were engaged to a woman and she moved away, it would seriously affect my relationship with her . . . especially if she did it unilaterally, i.e., without seeking my concurrence.

If you still want him, you need to tell him that your moving away was a serious and stupid mistake, and that you’re sorry. By the way, you CAN live together on what he would make, although you wouldn’t live like royalty. It would help if you got a job.

But, again, you are the one who first strained and stressed the relationship, and this the fallout you could reasonably expect.