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If you are about little stuff and you’re not married, imagine when you get married and start fighting over big stuff and cannot get out of the marriage?

I agree. Besides, if your not ready, your simply not ready. His pride was probably hurt by your saying no, but you were honest. I would suggest that perhaps going to see a pre-marital counselor would be of benefit. That way, you two could work out any differences before hand. This would make for a much happier marriage when it does take place. Always pick your battles wisely, never sweat the small stuff :)

fighting about taking out the trash and he wants to marry you, nah, ditch him, run away! there’s loads of boys out there, don’t settle for someone that petty. there are no big decisions in this life, if you listen to your heart the answer is clear and simple, you feel guilty about hurting him = you DON’T want to marry him.

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If you know in your gut you’re not ready to get married, don’t get married and don’t feel guilty. It probably is for the best. If after three years of living with the guy, you don’t know if you want to marry him, your best bet is to bail and jump ship. At least that’s how I feel. Move on and move out!

All those in favor of bailing and jumping shipt say aye!

Aye!

aye!

Besides, marriage is overrated!

no! If there is any glimmer of hope for marriage down the road, then hang in there. 3 years is a lot of time invested to just walk away. The whole purpose of pre-marital counseling is to work on resolving any differences. if after that, and you still can’t see a future with him, then by all means, call it quits and move on. Just be sure to think things through first, what ever route you choose.

seas light wrote:
no! If there is any glimmer of hope for marriage down the road, then hang in there.

????!!!! that makes it sound like the poor girl isn’t going to have any other options in her life. they’re fighting about rubbish and she is wracked with guilt about not wanting to hurt him when he proposes, if someone proposes and you don’t feel happy about it, it’s not right. I had three relationships that lasted over three years before I met my husband, none of them were right for me long term, we learn we move on and when it’s right you know it. If they are meant to be together they will end up back together but now is the time for her to run away.

sorry I know I’m being outrageously proscriptive here but obviously no-one needs to take the slightest bit of notice of what I’m saying. I just say it like I see it and it seems really clear to me.

Bail out and jump ship! Explore your other options!

also I’m tired and should go to bed, sorry for being so blunt with my opinion

and I know loads of couples who split up and had a break before ultimately getting back together and getting married, sometimes two people in a relationship need space to work out whether they want to be together or not

Hold on a second, you have two other posts regarding your “husband”?
So are you married or not? I’m confused!