Love help: ok, I know every one is pretty to someone.

cailindana8

ok, I know every one is pretty to someone.

And of course a woman can be beautiful at any size. And yes confidence is the sexiest thing about a woman. But we all find different looks attractive, some like skinny, some curvey. But if I don’t find me attractive that’s all that matters, not his opinion. I realy don’t believe one should let our self image and confidence be influenced by others. I am having a difficult time and the moment, I’ve a great boyfriend, very sweet and comlimentary of my figure. I was over weight when I met him, lost it during the relationship and have gained it back again as well as my acne getting worse. I’m thinking of dumping him. Although I do love him, I want what’s best for him. A girl that’s as good looking as he is. He could do so much better and deserves a thin pretty gf.

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tricky 35 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (7 minutes after post)

you are clearly blind, look are not what matter, in his eyes you are the most sexy beautiful human on this planet by dumping him you would being him far more sadness than you can imagine , what if the girl is thin what good is that to him ? he loves you and has decided to be with you… you deserve him as much as he deserves you, dont be foolish open your eyes beautiful girl

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Vyki 2 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (11 minutes after post)

That doesnt seem like a fair decision to make, if he didnt like you he wouldnt be with you. Why dont you try looking at it from his point of view, he thinks you are beautiful so you are and you are the best thing for him. All you have to do is ask him and he will tell you what he thinks of you.

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Pocoloco 2 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 12 minutes after post)

cailindana8 wrote:
But if I don’t find me attractive that’s all that matters.

You may not like the way you look, but he does. Maybe you are afraid if you commit to this guy you will never lose that weight because he won’t let you, because he likes you the way you are?

PaDLe 2 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 24 minutes after post)

One of my favourite quote,

“You don’t love her because she is beautiful, she is beautiful because you loved her”

and also,

“Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder”

He loves you the way you are and it’s not just about the looks,.. I’m sure you’re a great girl and that’s all that matters. Not the outside but the inside of you.

I tend to feel what you feel but I put aside all those negative thinking and just go with the flow. :D

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chunkymove 19 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (2 hours, 39 minutes after post)

WTF?

He gets dumped by a girl he likes so he can be with someone thin and pretty he doesn’t like?

Get some confidence, get some game plan. If you don’t want him, that’s your call. If he don’t want you, thats his.

Whats wrong with the loose some weight, get some face creme plan?

This may be waaay left field, but some women use weight to subconiously protect them from being attractive to men, as they are afriad of them for some reason…

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chunkymove 19 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (2 hours, 40 minutes after post)

woops, forgot to fix typos, please ignore them.

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MrsKatieness 11 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (3 hours, 28 minutes after post)

OMG girl! You are delusional. Don’t dump this guy. If you feel that bad about yourself you can try to work on it and that’s fine. You can also accept who you are because he obviously does.

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cailindana8 0 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (8 hours, 54 minutes after post)

Thanks for all of your advice, to be honest still uncertain, but all of your comments have helped. Just to address a few points raised. He would support me losing weight, and also I’m not sure if it occured to anyone but one thought I’m having is,he’s not really confident in his ability to “pull” or attract women, he has lots of female friends {most thinner and prettier} and I’m thinking that he’s aware of the fact he’s out of my league but doesn’t think he could pick up any of the girls that he fancies. Also just a quick note, we’ve been together for 20 months now. I just can’t help thinking he’s settled for me as a consilation prize, the old thinking about the 2 types of women one u desire the other “comfortable” so u settle down down with her. Thanks Again!! All comments much appreciated!!!!

Vyki 2 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (9 hours, 24 minutes after post)

If you really feel like that then why don’t you just speak to him?

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chunkymove 19 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (23 hours, 15 minutes after post)

So it a lot more complicated than a few curves, wow, never would have guessed :-)

If he’s not treating you right, then give him the heads up and work through it or leave.

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