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How can you make someone leave you alone short of taking legal action against them!
I’m so over this, this person was someone once important to me and i realised it wouldn’t work and tried to end it, now everytime they get the opportunity they make every attempt to make me look bad in front of of other people.
They tell lies, they hurtful things, they call me awful names, and then apoloize and the very next moment they get upset because I don’t want to be around them and they do it all over again.
i’m at my wits end here, any ideas!!
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I would confront them in front of others. Ask them why they don’t take the hint. It’s over between you. Leave you alone. Tell them to get over you.
Make sure others see this.
The person doing this to you, is he an ex-boyfriend? The reason he is saying this stuff is to get a reaction out of you, as in anger and frustration. When he sees that the comments no longer are having said effect on you, he will stop. You are acting in a predictable manner. Stop doing so.
How can i not act prredictably, this person knows all the buttons to push and how. They try to make me look stupid and even try to make it look like I’m stalking them. it’s the other way around.
why did you say you tried to end it- is it reaaly over?
Use a multi-pronged approach. First, talk to the person and say, “You know, it probably wasn’t meant for us to be in a relationship because we are so very different, but I would like for us to remain friends. On this note, I am asking you–out of respect for our friendship–to not put me down in front of our mutual friends and acquaintenances, and I pledge the same where you are concerned. Can we agree on this?”
Second, if he/she starts to put you down in your very presence, you should calmly say, “(Name), I’m sorry our relationship did not work out. Don’t you think it’s time you moved on?” This will make him/her like the idiot he/she is, and people will immediately know that any disparaging remarks he/she makes is because of a failed relationship.
yes it is over and i did all that. tried the friendship stuff, try being helpful but distant and it all leeds to the same thing. pain and anguish
i tried to end it thre months after it started which was over a year ago. they told me they would end it all if i did. that happened on three different occasions
thats why i tried to stay friends, i was afraid of what they would do to themself
i sort of like the failed relationship thing idea didnt try that yet
cut them off completely. Don’t answer when they call, don’t respond to e-mail, nothing! And they will say anything to get you to talk to them, stay strong and don’t talk to them. If you see them in person, tell them exactly why you won’t be talking to them anymore, and tell them not to try to contact you. What’s the point of being around people who make your life hell? If they want to harm themselves, it’s not your fault, they need help, help you can’t provide by being there emotional punching bag. Good Luck (:
trying to help people get over you is a counter-intuitive strategy.
what do your friends think?
my friends don’t trust this person. they were the ones said i was being stalked and to call the police
this person acts and appears normal to most people except me. when i tell them what the history is they roll there eyes and explaina bout restraining orders
sounds like you feel threatened socially and physically
i’m even afraid they will find out my address. I moved.
why r u afraid-what do u think will happen if he does find out ur address
this person hastried everthing to discredit me in front of people,
i dont know but i’m still scared
they will be humiliated in public. woundnt that just make it wrorse
did he hit you or send his friends to check up on you orthat kind of thing
how did you find out, tell me,durn im the one looking for answers here
how do you find out that stuff about people any know.
yeah you should get a restraining order if it makes you feel better, especially if you feel physically threatened.
Otherwise, you should cut contact with the guy. It’s good your friends know you well. I’d try to stay away from him- you dont seem to like him very much
Sadly some people just have to learn the hard way. You did all you could to be civil, but they still persist. Get the order. Perhaps then they will know you mean business! Good luck! :)
Realize that restraining orders are just pieces of paper, and that you also need to take responsibility for your own safety and security. It doesn’t sound like he’s physically dangerous at this time, but that could quickly change.
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