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A close friend of mine has a very controlling/selfish/obsessive bf for 2 years.

He tells her she CANT hang out or talk with me and only wants her reading/listening/doing things he approves of. He came down for Thanksgiving break and she told him she was hanging out with me for a while that day, he first told her only if he could go (I dont even know this dude), then told her she CANT go, and finally grabbed her jeans and wouldn’t let her go until she pulled away.While we were hanging out, he LITERALLY called/texted every 30 seconds even after she told him 5 times that she can’t talk because of the movie. The problem arises because their families are intertwined (father dating bf’s mother), she is getting pressured by her family to stay with him, and she is afraid that she will hurt him and then make it awkward in the future. She tells me she isn’t happy with him, but doesn’t want to break up with him for me because im graduating this year(I think thats an excuse to stay with him because I tell her that she needs to do it for her and nobody else). I hate to see her like this because she is always getting into arguments and she has to “take a break” every time she wants to hang out with me or another male. I’m worried that she is so afraid to hurt his feelings that she would rather stay in the relationship and try to deal with it or work around it

When we first became friends we were just hanging out, but now I found out we both like each other and connect amazingly well. About twice a week we hang out at my house and end up making out the whole time. What should I think about this? I might be leaving the state next year for college and she wants to stay near family.

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Thats the thing, he knows what I think about him (we both hate each other), he just manipulates his gf into getting back with him. E.G. I went to pick her up, he told her that if she goes with me that she chose me over him and that they were through, she went with me. After about 10 minutes he called/texted every 30 seconds and started saying he was sorry and this and that (bought flowers for her when she got back), but he also said that she was the one who wanted to take the break. This guy just makes me super mad!! and idk why but it hurts me every time she has to deal with him. Even though we have known each other for only 2 months, it seems like a lifetime of friendship.

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