friends help: so I have a story to tell you that I need to know your opinions on. - Help.com

She definetly is into you but you may want to be frank with her and say that until she breaks up with her boyfriend you will only be friends. She may be waiting for you to “rescue her” from that creep. She needs to step up and break things off before she starts up with you. If you don’t want to be too direct just casually ask her why she would be with her bf when she could date a guy like you. Or even just tell her that if she were single you’d show her how she deserves to be treated. It sounds like she is waiting for a “go” signal from you before she makes a move. You are so romantic, by the way!

I would fight to the death for a woman I loved, but I would never fight OVER a woman, which is to say that this is not a contest between you and her boyfriend. She must ditch the boyfriend for the two of you to have a real relationship. Is she willing to do that?

A LOT of girls/women are EXTREMELY hypocritical on this subject. They will say that they want nice, gentle, sensitive men, but WHOM do they date? They date guys like her “controlling boyfriend.” In a strange way, girls/women find these guys’ arrogance and overconfidence to be assuring. It’s kind of like female wolves gravitating to the alpha male. So, these girls/women will say one thing, but actually DO quite the opposite.

So, the best thing you could do is say this to her: “You know, I really like you, and I’d really like to start dating you, but first you have to decide what you’re going to do about [Guy’s Name Here].” You put the ball into her court.

I personally recommend that you do not view yourself as her rescuer, because all it takes is a word from her to end the relationship with her current boyfriend. Just a word. She needs to want you for who you are, and not just because you are the one “on top” at the moment.

She is probably just as confused and conflicted as you are. Give her time and give her space. Those two events (the movie and the note) are just enough to keep you in her mind. Don’t crowd her, and try not to get too involved with her current relationship. This is a journey for her as much as it is for you, so let her gather the strength to break up with him on her own. If she asks for your support, give it to her, but don’t cross the line. If she wasn’t quite ready to break up with him, or wanted to do it by herself, she might resent you for stepping in. So for now just breathe, take a step back, and let destiny bring you two together when the time is right.