Sounds like your ex is an unstable person who likes to blackmail you into staying with him. Why would you stay with him. You already enough on your plate to worry about this unstable person who does not have your best interest at heart for you. Let him go and erase him out of your life.
Unless you can actually control what he does with his life, then you should worry about him. He is a grown person who can make his own decisions and you don’t need the guilt parties that he throws and tries to make you the guest of honor.
I say good riddance. You have better things to do with your life. And even if you find a new boyfriend right away, what business is that of his? You are single and you should mingle.
Cut him loose all together and put him out of your mind, life, and worries. He is just not worth it!
Yeah definitely. People who constantly hound you with suspicion like that usually cheat themselves.
Can you imagine if you had actually decided to make a life with this man? He would have beaten your emotional state into a pulp and you would not have a single solitary moment of peace for yourself and family. Tell him this: Adios, Sayonara, Aloha, Arrivederci, See you later aligator, Don’t let the door hit you on the a**!
You never need a reason to break up. Sometimes you will not even understand why you want to get away from a person but, when you feel that way; trust your intuition without remorse. You are never obligated until you get hitched and even then people get divorced.
your partner just loved you so much, but he might not had the understanding and the capability, which made “his unknown weakness” work for a better relasionship with you. He is definitely a unexperiencing lover, and he would learned from the loss after you broke up with him. Both of you will gain freedom of solitude, but I advise you not to be hurry to start another relasionship.
Relax and sitback, and you will be OK.
you gotta figure out whether or not you ACTUALLY love him. because if you love him then theres 2 routes. route (a) is you don’t leave him in the past and you keep him with you because you would regret it if he died in a car accident tomorrow. route (b) is you leave him anyways even though you do love him. this route might have to be taken because he might not have any benefit to your life anymore. if he isn’t helping you progress and he’s just pulling you down, then you loving him isn’t worth it and you have to pull yourself out of the love trap (which sounds impossible, but it isn’t. it’s definitely possible, you just need the right attitude)
Then if you DON’T love him, then you are a fool (please don’t take offense) for having any contact with him at all because love should be the only reason that your still trying to work things out in such a complicated situation
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Next time he calls you tell him my standard response:
“Take a hike on the busy freeway at the top of rush hour totally naked, covered in honey, with wild African killer bees chasing you, with two juicy New York steaks hanging from your neck, and 10 hungry pit bulls chasing you. If you come back from that one alive, I will go out with you again if not I guess it’s over!”
You definately did the right thing! My ex started out like that - questoning me with collegues and friends and what i was doing. It never got better and then after four yrs - he controlled me completely, who i spoke to everything. He ended up beating me and stabbing me and messing me up totally emotionally. Get out now. Dont worry about him. what he says and what he does are two diff things. he is grown and can take care of himself.
i think littlenick the Teddy Bear is on to something here…
Well, in some circumstances i would agree with “bformula’s” reply. A lot of the times people in relationships when they are young tend to not know right from wrong and often times enjoy the persons company so much that they feel like they could lose you and fear that feeling. Through all of the guys i have dated i noticed that more often in my younger relationships. Most guys learn after they do not have the girl with them for a certain amount of time that they made a mistake and if they are not a complete *******, will tend to fix their problem if they care that much. However, i do not agree with “s414114″’s reply completely, if she went through an emotional batter with someone that abused her, i am certain that she noticed signs of it earlier in the relationship. I have been a social worker for the city of ****. Paul, for almost 10 years now and have seen that the abusive relationships are not because of jealousy, 99% of the time. Its because the man has been through an abusive past with his parents, grandparents, uncles, aunts, etc. The difference between your likings is not strange i believe as well, my husband as well loves the Heavy Metal scene, and i am still a country girl, we have been married for 5 years now and our love has overcome all of are arguments in the past not matter our small differences! After all they do say ….OPPOSITES ATTRACT! But hang in there girl id say maybe give him a shot at it and see if hes been thinking about what hes done wrong in his heart and see if he wants to make an attempt to work on his problems. Love is a rough game girl, but if someone wants your love that much they are always worth it! Maybe all of your stress right now with your sister’s pregnancy, and your grandma’s soon passing is just whirling through your head with the break up and its making you think single is the route you want to go? maybe not? A man’s touch after a long days work, or a family matter with me has always calmed me down no matter how much i told him i hate him earlier that day. Like they say “love sucks sometimes”. Good luck with everything and hopefully you can work through your problems, and may god bless you and your family through your grandma’s passing. Happy Holidays.
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According to some of your posts, it seems as if you have a repeat of problems at times. Maybe its not always the guy causing the problems? maybe it is? You could have a system in your body where you may need attention alot from him and other people? Life is an unfair place and sometimes you just have to deal with the problems it throws at you sometimes instead of burning all of them. Negativity sounds like a major issue in both your parts in this situation.
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