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Help I am UN-NORMAL for being 22.
****** 1: I am failing college so I will never be able to get to get a degree.
******:2 All other jobs left is basically cash register jobs (I can never do that because I do NOT KNOW ANY Math whatsoever). ******.3 I cannot drive, and I suspect I will never be able to due to my learning disability. It is a big deal - I am not able to go anywhere! ****** 4 I have NO friends due to social phobia. Girls and guys think I am wierd and do not like me. I need SOMEONE so bad- if I only could have ONE friend! ****** 5: My parents want me to live at home,but I do not want to cuz they control EVERY aspect of my life. They do not even let me go out of the house alone. All I want is to be a normal 22 year old who live at their own place, and have a job, and can drive. I CAN NEVER HAVE ANY OF THESE! My parents do not want me to have a job, they do not want me to have friends,they do not want me to drive.THEY ONLY WANT ME TO STAY IN THE HOUSE TIL I GROW OLD.
HELP!!!!!!!!! Is there hope for me?
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If you can pass high school(witch you have obviously done or you wouldnt be in college) you can pass college.
Why exactly cant you get your licends?
Do you actually have something medicaly wrong with you or are you just saying that?
If you have something medicaly wrong maybe your parents just want to help you by u living with them.
icarapedmyfuckingshi wrote:
i know wat its like i havea wierd *** growth on the side of my head
What does that mean?
I didn’t pass high shcool - I cheated my way out of it…..
if you didnt get your high school diploma how the hell are you attending college?
Joy. wrote:
If you can pass high school(witch you have obviously done or you wouldnt be in college) you can pass college.Why exactly cant you get your licends?Do you actually have something medicaly wrong with you or are you just saying that?If you have something medicaly wrong maybe your parents just want to help you by u living with them.
I KNOW FOR SURE I havea learning disability it - but I have hidden it all these years. I have never been checked but my parents know.
Yes I did get a high school diploma . But like I said I ALWaYS cheated in high school.
Anonymous wrote:
I don’t have friends either. NONE.
You don’t either? WHy not?
what learning disability?
If you tell your teachers they have to cope to your needs. They will tell you how to go about getting tested for what ever disability you may have.
I dont know anyone who didnt cheat in high school..
What learning dissability?
I dont know anyone who didnt cheat in high school.
If you tell your college about your learning dissability they have to cope to your needs.
Joy. wrote:
what learning disability?If you tell your teachers they have to cope to your needs. They will tell you how to go about getting tested for what ever disability you may have.I dont know anyone who didnt cheat in high school..
I have memory problems - I cannot remember anything almost. There is no way I will ever let anyone know I have a learning disablity. I am allready INFERIOR
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Anonymous wrote:You don’t either? WHy not?
I don’t have friends either. NONE.
Because.. I’m very shy and don’t speak well infront of others.
well if you dont tell your teachers and go to a doctor and see if there is anything they can do to help you with it, thats your own fault and your the one holding yourself back.
If you tell your teachers they by law can not tell anyone about it.
Why do you have bad memory? Were you in an accident, birth defect, what? I mean you can obviously remember you cheated during high school so you can remember things atleast from your past.
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You don’t either? WHy not?
I don’t have friends either. NONE.Because.. I’m very shy and don’t speak well infront of others.
Joy. wrote:
well if you dont tell your teachers and go to a doctor and see if there is anything they can do to help you with it, thats your own fault and your the one holding yourself back.If you tell your teachers they by law can not tell anyone about it.
Thanks but I don’t think so :(
Joy. wrote:
Why do you have bad memory? Were you in an accident, birth defect, what? I mean you can obviously remember you cheated during high school so you can remember things atleast from your past.
I do not know it’s the way learning disability works. People that have it have fewer cells in their brain.
Anonymous wrote:
Joy. wrote:I do not know it’s the way learning disability works. People that have it have fewer cells in their brain.
Why do you have bad memory? Were you in an accident, birth defect, what? I mean you can obviously remember you cheated during high school so you can remember things atleast from your past.
Have you ever went to a doctor and been evaluated?
No I haven’t,but I KNOW I have it- there is NO doubt.
How do you know you have it?
Because I can NEVER pass a single test. I never go out and have fun. I am inside and study ALL day. The other people in my class never study and pass because they are normal- I am not.
Not just that- I cannot even fill out forms correctly without messing up. ANYTING that has to be learned takes me twice as long as a normal person. It can be a simple thing as not figuring out how a cd player works!!!!
Maybe your studing with the wrong method for yourself. You see if you go to the doctor he can tell you what type of studing could work for you with your dissability. Some people are visual people, and others are audio people.
But I am scared cuz my parents know that I have a hard time in school and that I almost failed high school. They know that I struggle. But they don’t know I have a learning dissability- I’ve hidden it from them. I always tore my report cards- I never let them see. My sibling are all A students. There is a major difference between an A student and F student.
I don’t want to tell my parents about this. They tell everyone-thats the way they are.
What can I do? I want to have a normal life…a job, an appartment,….
Do what I told you to do before. If you dont do that you arnt going to have a normal life.
Ya well sorry kid but the other girls right! if you dont do sompething about it like go to the doctor or a teacher then your **** outta luck cuz its Your bad that your not progressing! I have the same problem! and i live in an apt. i gotta job. i dont go to school because its too hard but thats my bad. and I deal with it so you need to get over feeling sorry for yourself and deal!!!
I messed up in high school also and ended up getting my GED. I knew just enough math to get me through community college. I still don’t know math good and it hurts me on a day to day basis. You have to try harder to learn. You might have ADHD. You should go to the doctor for an evaluation. That might help you concentrate and then you can learn better. Don’t be embarrassed. Everyone has secrets. Your parents just seem like they are trying to protect you but you have to strive for better.
Most cash registers these days are basically automatic.
They scan items in the supermarket and the price comes up.
Basically you just need to take the cash, key in tje amount of cash you were given, and it tells you how much change to give.
You don’t need great maths skills to do that!
i believe that your worst enemy is yourself when you doubt yourself. I understand you have a disorder but there are ways to go about that…… life isnt easy its a test and i feel like sometimes the harder road is better than the easy road in life because you worked harder for it for example if u buy a pair of shoes from walmart compared to a pair of nikes from footlocker you know in your head which pair would last longer>>>> now the nike shoes are more expensive but theyll last you alot longer….. I feel like you should be more positive it doesnt matter if the only job out there is as a cashier>> i understand your not great at math but i read someones blog and its true what they said our technology has grown so you mostly just have to scan the product and hit the total button. Besides it is discrimination for a business not to hire you for a dissability u look into that if u would like…. but back to you getting a job it doesnt matter what you do as long as your working and you are the one working hard for that money besides i think that would be a great start for you to gain your independence….now you have a problem being social if you were to work maybe as a cashier you would eventually make friends and that would be a great step. And if you think about it your not the only one who gets shy the first time you meet someone and its ok is you do but its better to have tried to have never tried before because atleast you can say you tried…… Now u cant drive i know how u feel because i cant neither but now a days public transpotation is available and if you have a dissability then you should call your town city hall and find out what transportation does your city or town offer people with dissabilities. Theyre are ways around you just have to be optimistic… well ill be happy to be ur friend if you ever need to talk k
And remember its easier to say no then yes so try something different for a chance
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