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Please help, I’m really unmotivated.

My life revolves around my boyfriend, but I try to hide it from him… I sit around and wait for his calls or messages. I do nothing all day but cry and wait. It’s getting worse though, for the past couple of days I haven’t been eating much at all. I used to have so many dreams before I met him of growing up and being the best person I could be. I’m still confident, though… I think I’m pretty and smart and a good friend. I just am so unmotivated to do good things for myself and others. I’m bland now. He’s a good guy, it’s not really his fault why I’m pathetic now. I don’t know what it is. First love, I guess. But I’m so unmotivated. I don’t see how I’m going to pursue what I want to when all I want to do is think about him. =[ I’m young and really inexperienced, so I may get obsessed easily. I can’t see a professional because my mom will interrogate me too much and bother me. I don’t know what I could do… exercise more, get more hobbies, meditate? Anything???

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Time Traveller offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 8 Add Friend #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (4 minutes after post)

Is it possible you are too young for that intense of a relationship?

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Mayor offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 166 Add Friend #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (4 minutes after post)

You think about him so much because you don’t do anything else. So your problem is really your answer. Get out and do things. Read some good books, exercise, and go out with some friends. Take up a new hobby or something that really interest you. Before you know it you’ll be so into what you’re doing you would have forgotten that you miss your bf. Good luck.

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erminmehi offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 0 Add Friend #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (20 minutes after post)

maybe u need to take a break from your bf and focus on your dreams you sound very young and i think u should focus on yourself and your dreams instead of your boyfriend. I think its very important to first take care of yourself and get your life back on track before commiting to a realationship you will have a much healthier realationship with someone when you have your life together and dont have to depend on someone else.

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animal offline Verified User (3 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 29 Add Friend #
Norfolk, VA, US | 1 year ago (30 minutes after post)

You think you are pathetic, but you are not! You are far from that. The fact that you are seeking an answer is proof that you see a problem. Thats a good sign for you!

From what you have said, you feel that the issue is you being unmotivated. I would like to challenge that. You are motivated to see him, to talk to him. To have him be the center of your being. For a while, thats all that mattered. But now you are starting to see that this is not a good thing for you. Has nothing to do with him.

Hes with you because of the person you were when he met you. DONT LOOSE THAT PERSON! Dont get lost in him, be your own person! If you cant find a way to be yourself with, and without him, he will loose respect for you. You will have turned into someone other than who he was originally interested in.

Does any of my rant make sense to you?

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Neutra offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 19 Add Friend #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 15 minutes after post)

Just keep doing as much as possible. Find different things that interest you and pick out the really interesting ones. Work to build up your skill in what you like, and also enjoy it.

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chunkymove offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 Add Friend #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (10 hours, 12 minutes after post)

if you knew you were going to get hit by a comet in 2 years, would you want to spend those two years with him?

If not, get off your butt and get on with YOUR life.
If yes, get off your butt and get on with YOUR life, but with him as your boyfriend.

Sending comet now, should arrive in about a year or two.

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