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I’ve been in two long term relationships back to back totaling 8 years.

I haven’t been single for very long but I’m almost terrified getting back into the dating scene. I have no idea how to talk to a single woman anymore. It’s so easy for a woman because all they have to do is stay cute and wait for a man to say something. I have no idea what to say. I have hard time keeping a conversation. I need some help.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (1 day, 19 hours after post)

The easiest way is by putting yourself out there in situations you are comfortable with. For example, I met my husband at Karaoke. After each of us sang, we went up to each other and complimented the other on their song choice and singing ability. That broke the ice so we could start talking.

Join clubs, and other activities and make conversation like you would with a friend, not a potential partner.

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An Unknown Location | 6 months, 2 weeks ago (5 months, 1 week after post)

it’s not easy for girls either….even if we’re cute, the ones who come up to us aren’t usually the nice guys. I think dating sucks, but maybe finding your one and only is worth it :)

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An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (7 months, 3 weeks after post)

Dating’s hard for everyone, just take it at a pace that you are comfortable with. A date doesnt have to lead to a relationship it can just be a nice chat with another person and then go your separate ways as friends. The first date is easy, you cover all the getting to know you questions, where are you from, what do you do, what music do you like, what did you study, hobbies, politics, past relationships (can be a tricky question!) Last time I was single I took the easy route and met people online, just on chat rooms rather than dating sites, that way you get to have a little light hearted conversation before deciding if you even want to meet them. Then it makes things a little easier beacause you already know a little bit about the person..you will relax into it though with a bit of practice and you might even have some fun on the way! good luck :)

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